What week are we again?

Ok, so it's been a week and I haven't found time to blog. I've been online, but don't like blogging if I'm going to risk DP finding out LOL So, this last week... DP was doing pretty well early on. Tuesday and Wednesday he did some dishes... one day he got out and said he tidied up some of the shed, which was really him throwing stuff on the crap pile. I told him I wish he wouldn't do that, add to that pile of crap. It's been there so long already and all he's done is make it bigger. So he won't do it again, he says. He talked about getting a skip bin, but they are so expensive. I suggested slowly putting what we could into the bin for collection but he says there's never much room after our normal rubbish goes out. So today there looked to be heaps of room, so I've stuck an old monitor from the crap pile into the bin.

Let's talk about Thursday and Friday though, I remember them being similar days and I intended to blog but got sidetracked (as happens a lot to me) I got up around 7am both mornings, Thursday DP was up already on the computer, Friday he slept longer. I did some dishes, put on a load of washing, hung out what was in the machine and bought in what was outside. DD5 got up around 7.30-8am, DD2 has been sleeping much longer. I think on Friday it was 10am when she, DD17 and DS 13 got up! I spent both mornings trying to sort out my craft cupboard. I've got some folders and have been putting patterns and things into them so I can find them. I also found stacks of stickers and embellishments for scrapbooking that I've tried to put together... they are everywhere! I've still got a way to go but I think I accomplished heaps. DP did next to nothing. I think he got lunch and tea. Friday afternoon I took the kids to my mum's, when we got home DP said "Spaghetti on toast for tea". Yuk, I really hate that, it's not very healthy. We'd had nachos for lunch Thursday, so actually the kids made that, and pizza for tea. Then leftover nachos for lunch Friday for me and the kids, so I made that. Actually DP was only making his own lunch - salad! So I made tuna pasta Friday night, and I washed bowls for us too because while we were gone DP didn't do the dishes.

Saturday morning I didn't do much, I got up later I think. I was taking the kids to the cinema at 11am and spent some of the morning chatting to my sister online. I had intended to blog then LOL DP had decided not to come with us saying he had cleaning up to do. Not that he did much. He did some of the dishes but this morning there was a days worth of mugs and cutlery in the bottom of the sink that I washed! We came home around lunch time, ate and then the kids wanted to go to the pool. I wasn't really in the mood but went anyway, you do these things for your children right... not that DP understands that. He can be so selfish! So we came home after about 1.5 hours and DP was right where we left him - on the computer. He'd decided we'd have spaghetti on toast, I said I hate it, so he got DD17 to put some soup in the microwave for me. It was much nicer than spaghetti out of a tin anyway LOL

Today has been a nothing day as well. I got up about 8.15am because DD2 had been wide awake at 5am and DP was snoring. He was asleep in his chair when I came out. I did some dishes, found all the cutlery in the bottom of the sink. I filled the rack twice, drying inbetween. DP never does that unless he gets DD17 to dry. What I left needed a bit of a soak. I went and had a shower, then must've had breakfast and sat on the computer for a bit. Mum got here at 10am with the lawn mower so DS13 could do our yard. I think it was midday when she left after doing some dishes. DD17 was cooking mini pinwheels for lunch so I ate then spent about an hour and a half trying to get DD2 to sleep. I've since been to the supermarket and that's been all I've done today. Mind you DP hasn't moved from the computer and TBH I am waiting for him to say he's going for a nap. He hasn't even had his salad for lunch. Sunday was going to be bathroom day, maybe I should try to motivate myself to at least do that. Will try later I think, I have no motivation to do anything right now. And why should I? I did bring in the washing before DS mowed... it will need folding and putting away. Such a never-ending cycle.

Back from a holiday from the Internet

Yes, we were away and I had no internet access, but now we're back. There is something I need to say about going on holiday... there are things you take with you... like the inability to close cupboard doors or pick up things from the floor. It took no time at all for our little cabin to look like this house - depressing for me. The third day we were there I commented on it being some holiday for me as I was still cleaning up after everyone else. DP read instead of being on the computer, still a sitting activity. He had intended to walk every morning but after the first day he was in no condition to walk. We spent most days out being tourists and it was very hard on him after years of inactivity. We also had something of an arguement because I said last time we were there he would sit on the computer when we were "at home". I've no idea what he thought he was doing, I'm sure we had internet though. He took his computer but said he never set it up... but we also had a laptop and I'm sure that's what he sat on.

Anyway... last night we got home and found my family had done a tidy up here. I knew mum would do the dishes and tidy the kitchen, but our living room and DP's office were also tidied. DP was furious, he feels his personal space has been disregarded... not sure what the word would be there... his papers were put into a folder and the floor was tidied. He had a diary which he claims he's been writing personal things in and there were papers put into it. I said I doubted they'd have read anything, just shoved the papers into it. And as for the floor, it was a dumping ground for him. Tissues, rubbish, I was disgusted by it. He said "I'm disgusted by the rest of the house" and had a snarl on his face. "So HELP ME" I said. I'm disgusted by the house too, I'm trying to do something about it but I can't do it all by myself. He had the audacity to act like I do nothing! He will say I treat him the same way. I said I do the dishes, he says he does them "most of the time". And he cooks tea! What about everything else. I do the laundry, he looked confused, I think he thought I cleaned it up. I do the washing, hang it out, bring it in, try to fold it and get it put away. I admit that last one is where I tend to fail... because I can't get in to put things away so I need to sort out our room, then I get sidetracked. But how dare he act like he does so much! Like he does things every day. I said I can do more while he is in the toilet than he does in a day, and I can do it with the 2 little ones around where he has the house to himself. Then he says it's because he soaks the dishes for me and besides I don't get the whole kitchen finished!!! WTF!!! He was such a fucking jerk last night!!! I said I take everyone everywhere, like him to his appointments. He said the only appointment I have to take him to is the Job Network because he gets himself to the doctor. I let him know I think he lied about his last appointment, saying he went in an hour earlier but he couldn't tell me what time his appointment was or how long it took him to walk there. At some point I said I need to just stay home every day, cancel all the things I go to, so I can clean up. And he says "Shopping on Thursday" and I know he hates that I do that and he would love me to give it up. This morning I resolved that I will do that, and my craft group. I won't give up taking the kids to visit my grandmother or playgroup. I will also take the kids to their sport if they chose to do it this year. At the moment it's school holidays so nothing is on anyway. I hated him last night... and this morning. I've barely spoken to him. I was going to ring and book myself in to the dr, I'm sick of feeling angry all the time. I keep hitting myself and fighting the urge to slam my head into a wall. I'm sick of DP.

Today I got up and started doing laundry, we have lots from our holiday. DP asked if I wanted a drink or breakfast and I said no. I got something later when DD5 and DD2 were up. I've done 4 loads, one is still in the machine. I'm going to get the other 3 off the line shortly (I'd have done it already if not for this blog) I watched TV but emptied the suitcase and got stuff out of the car in the ads. DP sat on the computer from the time he got up until midday when he started making pancakes for lunch. Then he was on there again until about 3pm when he went to bed asking me to wake him at 5pm so he could cook tea. Jerk. Because cooking is his only task. I think this morning when I was obviously annoyed he didn't know what to do because there were no dishes for him to "token wash". OMG Just thought of something else he said. He says when I'm not home he does heaps of things that I don't notice! Like what??? When I am home and I see him sit on the computer all day isn't it fair that I think he's spending days I'm not home the same way? Surely if he is doing so much I should notice? There would be some sign? "Can't I have a day off on the computer?" DP asked... WTF? A DAY? It seems to be how he spends his fucking life!!! Jerk!

Spending time with family

DD2 stayed up until I went to bed last night... at 10.30ish I think it was. Oh well.

This morning I started in the wall cupboard in the bathroom. I emptied one shelf and dusted it before refilling it. It has nail polish stored on it, so I checked every bottle and got rid of those that were too gluggy to use. It was a start. Then I bathed the 2 little girls and got them dressed. I have been wanting to take photos of some of my craft items and DP said last night about setting up the light box after DD2 went to bed... which didn't happen did it. So I decided to do it this morning. I had a bit of trouble but eventually got some ok photos. I'm not entirely happy but they will have to do. I posted them online, hopefully someone will be interested.

This afternoon after lunch I took the kids to visit my mum and brothers and we had tea there. So I really don't feel like it was a day of much accomplishment. DP has done some of the dishes while we were out, the kitchen bench is almost clear! Mind you I'd done quite a few this morning too, but there were a lot there.

DP has started playing FarmVille on Facebook. He has it on the laptop and then plays WoW or reads on the PC. I think he needs a new hobby :(

Cleaning the shower can be a big job!

Yes, today I finally did some more work in the bathroom! We have this horrible shower with a sliding door that's in 3 panels and try as I might I've been unable to clean them properly. So today I pulled off the 2 panels that aren't attached and cleaned the lot. It looks much better, but putting it back together proved difficult and I had to get DP to help me. I spent about an hour in there, maybe longer, I've no idea. I poured bleach in the bottom of the shower first, and then used some mould remover. There is still a blackness to the base of the shower though. I even used some toilet cleaner on it, and a "magic eraser"... nothing helped. I washed the 2 panels in the bath, spraying them with mould remover and using a toothbrush for the worst of it. Now to try to keep the shower clean! I think the problem area of the panels might be helped by spraying and rinsing regularly... I'm sure cleaning is why there are now those shower doors that are a single glass panel that swings! It would be much easier.

I did the bathroom this afternoon. This morning we ended up going grocery shopping and as usual spent far too much money. $300 on food and we're going away in a week! Admittedly we did get some snacks for the trip, it's an 8 hour drive and with stops for the kids it took about 12 hours last time we went. I also couldn't go past 1/2 price laundry powder LOL I guess we should be right for this week then not have to worry too much about food when we return... I can hope anyway.

DP has spent the time at home on the computer. He's playing WoW atm but was reading comics at lunch time. He did the dishes yesterday so today there aren't many, which is a nice change but I wish he'd get that doing them every day is easier than thinking "I'll wait until there are more". I took the kids to the pool yesterday morning and came back to a tidy kitchen, it was pretty nice. He spent the rest of the day on the computer though, and then went to bed at about 7pm because he's been getting blood noses recently. He was only going "for a bit of a lie-down" but was still there when I went to bed at 11pm. DD2 was still awake then and I was getting angry and tired. Actually she's been asleep now for 2.5 hours so if she doesn't get up soon we'll have a repeat of last night. I didn't do much yesterday afternoon either, I just couldn't get in the mood to do some of the bathroom. I tried sorting a drawer but gave up. I did some laundry though, the dry washing is waiting to be folded so I should do that this evening.

The chair wasn't behind the car, but where it was stopped the gate from opening so we had to move it anyway. DP13 moved it so I could reverse both cars out of the way then he and DD17 have put it into the back yard on the "crap pile" DP started months ago. I wish he'd not done it at all, the grass has grown through it because we can't mow or whipper snipper and it just looks terrible. Oh well... the inside of the house is my priority for now, I will deal with outside later, maybe. Better go and wake DD2, I don't want her up until I go to bed... I'd like some 'me' time and I've wasted enough time on here LOL

A New Year

It's 1/1/11. I stayed up last night to see in the New Year and to wait for DD17. It was another slack day yesterday, DP annoyed the crap out of me. He would have sat on the computer all day again except I said "it would be nice if you could help out" at lunch time. He said he was going to get lunch, "what time is lunch usually?" I asked. "12.30" "and what time is it now?" "not 11" he said looking at his laptop. He'd been sitting on WoW on the PC and doing something else on his laptop, obviously the time was wrong... but if he'd just looked up at the wall he'd have realised it was 1.15pm and the kids were all hungry! I was doing dishes so we could have scrambled eggs, DP wanted to get "spread sandwiches"... boring, right. So he says "if you get out of the kitchen I'll get lunch"... DS 13 had offered to cook. "have we got enough eggs?" DP asks. I got out of the kitchen and he did eventually do some dishes and get lunch, but he didn't seem happy about it.

He sat on the computer until about 5pm when he got DD 17 to put noodles on to go with tea. Last night he'd cooked thinking I wouldn't get fish and chips. He'd messaged me while I was at mum's and I said "aren't we supposed to be saving money?" Then I took tea home anyway. So the sweet and sour went into the fridge for tonight. DP was pretty thankful for that though, it was 40 degrees yesterday and didn't cool down until well after 9pm.

Now I was pretty slack yesterday too, I admit that. I didn't get into the bathroom because for about an hour DP asked if anyone needed the bathroom and that means he's thinking about using it and I didn't want to start and have to leave for him. I did some of my craft stuff and took photos, put them on the computer and uploaded them. I sold something last night! So it was worth it... kind of. I did do some laundry, I hung out a load in the morning and bought in some, I even folded it and put it away straight away!!! We were home all day too, and I've been trying to toilet train DD2 so I had her in underwear all day yesterday. It did mean several trips with her to the potty, but she was dry all day! So I did accomplish a few things. Toilet training is quite time consuming in the early days.

This morning when DP got up I said it's a new year and he needs to look at his routine. He was standing in the doorway and turned fully around (he's very overweight and I don't think he can just look over his shoulder!) and said "good morning". He went out, went to the bathroom, then came in to look for his necklace on the floor and said he'd open up the house. He ended up moving the chair from the front door finally! Around the end of November we'd been talking about how to organise the living room. He decided to get rid of one chair so we've got a couch and "his" chair now. Then where the other chair was he plans to stack plastic tubs to "store" stuff in the corner! Only he couldn't get the chair out the back door so he pushed it out the front door and it's been sitting on an angle down the steps! People come to the front door and there's a frigging chair there! So he's finally moved it, not sure where it went but I heard the gate open. The cars would be in the way so I predict it's behind them, right in the way when we decide to leave... I'll have a look later.

Anyway, the tubs. "We" bought 4 to begin with, DS13 and I put some stuff in them and they're in the corner. Now we have 2 more empty ones under the table near DP's "office". It's so frigging frustrating. But I'd better go and do some washing and hopefully something in the bathroom lol