Living with an Agoraphobic WoW Addict

This is my diary, a record of what it's like living with a partner who has
Anxiety Disorder and Social Phobia and how it's affecting us.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Wednesday and Thursday

So DP got up Wednesday at 6am and headed to the bathroom so I didn't get to the shower until 6.20am or so. When I got out DP was sitting in his chair and looked like he was going to sleep so I told him to just go back to bed... which he did. He got up again at 8.15am by which time I'd had breakfast and packed DD5's lunch. I took her to school at 8.40am and came home. I did some dishes, DP headed into the bathroom again and got ready to go to school! He went at about 10.30am. I made some biscuits and wanted to clean up the laundry but instead spent time with DD2 out in the sunshine. With winter so close we need to make the most of warmth. I hung out some washing too. I picked DD5 up from school and had to make a trip to the supermarket. DS met DP in town after school and they looked at some bike shops before coming home around 6pm. DD17 came home as usual at 4.15pm and we made tea.

I did get some text messages from DP Wednesday too, about saying that I hate him. Before he left he asked if I'd said it and I said yes, it was 4am and he was snoring. He called a taxi and went out without hugging DD2, she cried and he came back. At 11.28am I got the msg "Can you do me a big favor besides not hate me" I said something about it being 4am and he was snoring and he'd thrown a tanty the night before. Or maybe that was after "You told me you hate me woman how the hell am I supposed to take that". "Go to my program files on my computer and find the world of war aft folder and erase it". I said I wasn't going to do that, if he wants to change he needs to do it himself (or words to that effect) "Always listened dear just hard to do things while you can nearly breath of late, anyway you can access my online account at (insert web address)". That was in response to me saying that maybe he will listen when I say I need help. "Do not erase the account, change the password to something else". Around midday he said he was sitting in the sun and let me know he would be meeting DS14 in town after school. Then he said to erase WoW. That was the last I heard until he was out of school and "buffered", I think that was supposed to be "buggered" Sure enough when he got home he said he may've overdone it.

So today is Thursday and I was up later than I have been recently - 7.15am. I went and showered, did the breakfast routine. DP got up earlier but I can't remember, maybe it was when I was in the shower. I took DD5 to school, came home, had a friend waiting because it was my turn to drive and we went shopping. At 11am I got a msg from DP "I think I,be toasted the last of my caffeine reserves. Full on sugar and caffeine with draws now". I got home at 1.40pm and he was in bed, no school again today then. I left at 2.40pm, picked up DD5, went to mum's, we had tea there, got home with all the kids at 7.40pm. DP had been sending messages to DD17 about what to have for tea because my phone died during the day. He had pancakes for tea - healthy... but there was leftover batter so we had them for supper with warm drinks then everyone has gone to bed. DP headed to bed at 9.30pm, I commented about him being tired and he's apparently still not feeling great. He blames the new diet and lack of coffee and softdrink... I wonder how long he will keep it up.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Tuesday... and an early Wednesday morning

So Tuesday morning DD5 woke us at 2am because she had a sore ear, so I got up and got her Panadol. DP started to snore when I got back to bed and I think I said "Just shut up!" He said "What do you want me to do?" "Lose weight... you've gotten bigger as you've gotten bigger... you've gotten worse as you've gotten bigger" (I was so tired) He got out of bed and said "And get no sleep in the mean time". He ended up sleeping on the floor of the living room, with the fan going of course. I hate that. I got up at about 7am and the room was freezing. I had my shower and when I got out DD17 had DD2 in her arms to meet me. DP got up and I turned off the fan and put the heater on. DP sat on his computer. I got breakfast for the little girls, I'd checked on DD5 because she's usually up before DD2 and she was awake. I had breakfast myself, made DD5 lunch, got the little girls clothes, DD5 dressed herself, I dressed DD2. We did the school run, came home, DP was in the bathroom. He got out around 9.30, I left at about 9.45am. I had 2 meetings to get to, including craft. I ended up getting home around 2.15pm and left again at about 2.30pm to pick DD5 up early and get to a dentist appointment. DP wasn't home, he actually got himself to school. We visited my grandmother and headed home around 5pm, DP still wasn't home, he said he'd gone with some of his class to the library to work on an assignment. DD17 and I cooked tea and DP got home just before it was finished, maybe a bit after 6pm. He didn't move from the computer. We ate, DD17 made pancakes, I ran a bath for the little girls after tea and got them ready for bed. DD5 read her reader to me, it's usually DP's thing but he's been slacking off recently. DD2 was asleep by 8.15pm, she hadn't napped all day so that wasn't a surprise. I folded some washing and put most of it away before ending my day watching TV and crocheting. I went to bed at 10.15pm.

So now it's 5.40am and I've been awake for at least an hour, lying in bed cursing DP's snoring. I said "God I hate you" and he said "mmm?" and started snoring again. I tried blocking my ears, putting the pillow over my head, I could still hear him, so I gave up and got up. I wanted to go back to sleep, I was so tired and warm. Unlike DP once I get up I can't easily just go back to sleep, and I can't just sleep anywhere. The living room is too cold for a start, and it will take a while for the heater to warm it up. So I'm up for the day. Gives me time to update this I suppose. Might go and shower at 6am to warm up. I'm home for the day today, and if DP goes to school I'll have a day to myself, first one in sooooo long! I really need time home without DP here, he doesn't understand that though.