So yesterday I spent an hour in the bathroom cleaning the window and sorting out the cupboard under the basin. I told DP I was going to get the bathroom done and he said he'd race me with the kitchen. He did do some dishes, getting DD 17 to dry in between. Time sharing again, it's so frustrating... but I think it's partly because he just can't stand up for long. The diet shakes he was doing fell by the wayside, he talks about doing it and there's a sign on the door saying "3 shakes a day, Do not forget" Last night he asked what sort of pizza I wanted for tea and I said "a free one". We are supposed to be saving money so I cooked tea. I'm working on craft to sell online too so I made some things yesterday. All in all it was a fairly lazy day but at least I did some in the bathroom.
More than can be said for today. DP's dad rang last night to say he'd drop by on his way home this morning so instead of getting into the bathroom between 8 and 9am I was trying to tidy the living room a bit. I also put on some washing and hung that out, which is what I was doing when DP's father turned up. I'd told DP to ask if his dad got my email. About maybe 2 months ago DP's father rang and said that he hadn't given the kids gifts for a while and he wanted me to email him some ideas. DP told me not to bother but I eventually convinced him that we should. Stupid me... he didn't give the children anything. He bought lunch when we were out on Monday. It's not that my children need gifts... it's the thought that counts right. But he puts no thought into our family at all. I'm over it, I've told DP I never want to see or talk to his father again. I'm not going to put up with being treated like that. DP said it's how he was always treated - he would see everyone else getting presents and when he'd ask why he got nothing he would be told he was a present grabber. Now his children are getting treated like that, I don't think so. At least they have my family who love them and "spoil" them.
I don't expect anything for my eldest 2, they're not DP's biological children. But the 2 little girls... DP's father gave DD 5 a present for her first Christmas, a couple of outfits from Target. He's given her nothing since. And DD 2 has never had a gift from him. This wouldn't bother me except that DP and DD 5 were out with his father about 2 years ago and he picked up a big doll saying "I just have to get this for my grand-daughter" and bought it for DP's niece. Then there's the time we were given a soda stream as a family present... that was our last ever gift I think... and it was the same year DP's sister was given a Wii and Wii Fit board. The story of DP's life he says. His mother was no better, that's why she's been out of our lives for about 4 years. I'd be happy to get rid of his father too to be honest. I know it's the stress of his father being in town that's made him more useless these last few days, sitting on WoW to 'destress', to forget about his family and how they've treated him. I just wish he'd get help to get past it. It's all very well to say they made him who he is today but he really needs to get on with his life.
Anyway, I didn't do anything in the bathroom today. I intended to but was so angry with DP's father saying he got my email and looking like "why, did you expect something"... making me feel like a right idiot... And my craft items arrived today so I've been working on making things. I also took my kids to the pool in the morning then visited my mum and brothers in the afternoon.
Tomorrow is another day, and the last of 2010. I hope 2011 brings a new outlook on life, especially for DP.
Here's hoping.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
I'm back... new resolutions for 2011
Ok, I've been really slack with this blog... what can I say... very little has changed. Instead of going over it all I will start again. 2011 is going to be my year to get organised! I am sick of this house, I am sick of waiting for DP, I need to make us fit this house not store everything in the hope we'll have room for it one day.
So yesterday I started in the bathroom. I spent an hour in the morning cleaning the basin and bath. I even scrubbed where we store the toothbrushes and rinsed the lid of the toothpaste (after discarding 3 used tubes that were never going to be used again) Today I'm trying to decide whether to tackle the shower or try getting into the cupboard and/or drawers.
We also had DP's father come for tea yesterday, DP's idea, he invited him the day before. So I was also trying to sort out the living room so it at least looked tidy. DP played WoW the whole time I was running around. I did a load of washing too, I love this warmer weather, I can keep up with the laundry.
I then took the kids to visit my mum. We'd been busy since Christmas Day and I had some things to take over to her. My brother and his family were there but went for a picnic lunch with friends so I decided to stay for lunch. This is our first Christmas without my dad so I think we're all trying to keep mum company. I usually visit my grandmother on a Tuesday so we went there on the way home. I headed home at about 4pm knowing that DP's father was coming. DP was just peeling potatoes and pumpkin and the roast was in. It had been frozen though so ended up taking until 7pm to be done and the pumpkin and potatoes needed longer. DP commented that they need to go in at the same time as the roast, he knew that though. I also said the chicken should have gone in the microwave to defrost a bit first as well. Oh well. DP's father apparently rang at 2pm and was going to head over then but DP told him the kids and I were out. So he turned up around 5.30pm. DP played WoW the whole time! I put some vegies in to steam in the microwave and told DP when the roast was ready it would need a couple of minutes to reheat... he looks and says we need more, adds the rest of the packet and then that's what ended up not being eaten anyway! Grrr. While we waited for tea to cook I ended up putting on a DVD, so we didn't eat until after 7pm because the movie was halfway through by the time we ate and I put it on at 7pm! We all sat in the living room (we don't have a dining area) watching the movie and eating tea, DP didn't join us at all. I was so annoyed with him. His father left just after 9pm after taking lots of photos of the little girls.
DP's excuse is that his father is more relaxed when he isn't around, that's why he sat in his corner on the computer. I said this morning that's how our whole life is, him sitting there. He said "make sure my chair is clear and I'll sit there more often"... ARGH!!! I said "WHY SHOULD THAT BE UP TO ME, YOU DO IT" Jerk!!! He can clear his own fucking chair, it's always ME!!!!!
So yesterday I started in the bathroom. I spent an hour in the morning cleaning the basin and bath. I even scrubbed where we store the toothbrushes and rinsed the lid of the toothpaste (after discarding 3 used tubes that were never going to be used again) Today I'm trying to decide whether to tackle the shower or try getting into the cupboard and/or drawers.
We also had DP's father come for tea yesterday, DP's idea, he invited him the day before. So I was also trying to sort out the living room so it at least looked tidy. DP played WoW the whole time I was running around. I did a load of washing too, I love this warmer weather, I can keep up with the laundry.
I then took the kids to visit my mum. We'd been busy since Christmas Day and I had some things to take over to her. My brother and his family were there but went for a picnic lunch with friends so I decided to stay for lunch. This is our first Christmas without my dad so I think we're all trying to keep mum company. I usually visit my grandmother on a Tuesday so we went there on the way home. I headed home at about 4pm knowing that DP's father was coming. DP was just peeling potatoes and pumpkin and the roast was in. It had been frozen though so ended up taking until 7pm to be done and the pumpkin and potatoes needed longer. DP commented that they need to go in at the same time as the roast, he knew that though. I also said the chicken should have gone in the microwave to defrost a bit first as well. Oh well. DP's father apparently rang at 2pm and was going to head over then but DP told him the kids and I were out. So he turned up around 5.30pm. DP played WoW the whole time! I put some vegies in to steam in the microwave and told DP when the roast was ready it would need a couple of minutes to reheat... he looks and says we need more, adds the rest of the packet and then that's what ended up not being eaten anyway! Grrr. While we waited for tea to cook I ended up putting on a DVD, so we didn't eat until after 7pm because the movie was halfway through by the time we ate and I put it on at 7pm! We all sat in the living room (we don't have a dining area) watching the movie and eating tea, DP didn't join us at all. I was so annoyed with him. His father left just after 9pm after taking lots of photos of the little girls.
DP's excuse is that his father is more relaxed when he isn't around, that's why he sat in his corner on the computer. I said this morning that's how our whole life is, him sitting there. He said "make sure my chair is clear and I'll sit there more often"... ARGH!!! I said "WHY SHOULD THAT BE UP TO ME, YOU DO IT" Jerk!!! He can clear his own fucking chair, it's always ME!!!!!
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