Slack day

So yesterday I spent an hour in the bathroom cleaning the window and sorting out the cupboard under the basin. I told DP I was going to get the bathroom done and he said he'd race me with the kitchen. He did do some dishes, getting DD 17 to dry in between. Time sharing again, it's so frustrating... but I think it's partly because he just can't stand up for long. The diet shakes he was doing fell by the wayside, he talks about doing it and there's a sign on the door saying "3 shakes a day, Do not forget" Last night he asked what sort of pizza I wanted for tea and I said "a free one". We are supposed to be saving money so I cooked tea. I'm working on craft to sell online too so I made some things yesterday. All in all it was a fairly lazy day but at least I did some in the bathroom.

More than can be said for today. DP's dad rang last night to say he'd drop by on his way home this morning so instead of getting into the bathroom between 8 and 9am I was trying to tidy the living room a bit. I also put on some washing and hung that out, which is what I was doing when DP's father turned up. I'd told DP to ask if his dad got my email. About maybe 2 months ago DP's father rang and said that he hadn't given the kids gifts for a while and he wanted me to email him some ideas. DP told me not to bother but I eventually convinced him that we should. Stupid me... he didn't give the children anything. He bought lunch when we were out on Monday. It's not that my children need gifts... it's the thought that counts right. But he puts no thought into our family at all. I'm over it, I've told DP I never want to see or talk to his father again. I'm not going to put up with being treated like that. DP said it's how he was always treated - he would see everyone else getting presents and when he'd ask why he got nothing he would be told he was a present grabber. Now his children are getting treated like that, I don't think so. At least they have my family who love them and "spoil" them.

I don't expect anything for my eldest 2, they're not DP's biological children. But the 2 little girls... DP's father gave DD 5 a present for her first Christmas, a couple of outfits from Target. He's given her nothing since. And DD 2 has never had a gift from him. This wouldn't bother me except that DP and DD 5 were out with his father about 2 years ago and he picked up a big doll saying "I just have to get this for my grand-daughter" and bought it for DP's niece. Then there's the time we were given a soda stream as a family present... that was our last ever gift I think... and it was the same year DP's sister was given a Wii and Wii Fit board. The story of DP's life he says. His mother was no better, that's why she's been out of our lives for about 4 years. I'd be happy to get rid of his father too to be honest. I know it's the stress of his father being in town that's made him more useless these last few days, sitting on WoW to 'destress', to forget about his family and how they've treated him. I just wish he'd get help to get past it. It's all very well to say they made him who he is today but he really needs to get on with his life.

Anyway, I didn't do anything in the bathroom today. I intended to but was so angry with DP's father saying he got my email and looking like "why, did you expect something"... making me feel like a right idiot... And my craft items arrived today so I've been working on making things. I also took my kids to the pool in the morning then visited my mum and brothers in the afternoon.

Tomorrow is another day, and the last of 2010. I hope 2011 brings a new outlook on life, especially for DP.

Here's hoping.