So DP got up Wednesday at 6am and headed to the bathroom so I didn't get to the shower until 6.20am or so. When I got out DP was sitting in his chair and looked like he was going to sleep so I told him to just go back to bed... which he did. He got up again at 8.15am by which time I'd had breakfast and packed DD5's lunch. I took her to school at 8.40am and came home. I did some dishes, DP headed into the bathroom again and got ready to go to school! He went at about 10.30am. I made some biscuits and wanted to clean up the laundry but instead spent time with DD2 out in the sunshine. With winter so close we need to make the most of warmth. I hung out some washing too. I picked DD5 up from school and had to make a trip to the supermarket. DS met DP in town after school and they looked at some bike shops before coming home around 6pm. DD17 came home as usual at 4.15pm and we made tea.
I did get some text messages from DP Wednesday too, about saying that I hate him. Before he left he asked if I'd said it and I said yes, it was 4am and he was snoring. He called a taxi and went out without hugging DD2, she cried and he came back. At 11.28am I got the msg "Can you do me a big favor besides not hate me" I said something about it being 4am and he was snoring and he'd thrown a tanty the night before. Or maybe that was after "You told me you hate me woman how the hell am I supposed to take that". "Go to my program files on my computer and find the world of war aft folder and erase it". I said I wasn't going to do that, if he wants to change he needs to do it himself (or words to that effect) "Always listened dear just hard to do things while you can nearly breath of late, anyway you can access my online account at (insert web address)". That was in response to me saying that maybe he will listen when I say I need help. "Do not erase the account, change the password to something else". Around midday he said he was sitting in the sun and let me know he would be meeting DS14 in town after school. Then he said to erase WoW. That was the last I heard until he was out of school and "buffered", I think that was supposed to be "buggered" Sure enough when he got home he said he may've overdone it.
So today is Thursday and I was up later than I have been recently - 7.15am. I went and showered, did the breakfast routine. DP got up earlier but I can't remember, maybe it was when I was in the shower. I took DD5 to school, came home, had a friend waiting because it was my turn to drive and we went shopping. At 11am I got a msg from DP "I think I,be toasted the last of my caffeine reserves. Full on sugar and caffeine with draws now". I got home at 1.40pm and he was in bed, no school again today then. I left at 2.40pm, picked up DD5, went to mum's, we had tea there, got home with all the kids at 7.40pm. DP had been sending messages to DD17 about what to have for tea because my phone died during the day. He had pancakes for tea - healthy... but there was leftover batter so we had them for supper with warm drinks then everyone has gone to bed. DP headed to bed at 9.30pm, I commented about him being tired and he's apparently still not feeling great. He blames the new diet and lack of coffee and softdrink... I wonder how long he will keep it up.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Tuesday... and an early Wednesday morning
So Tuesday morning DD5 woke us at 2am because she had a sore ear, so I got up and got her Panadol. DP started to snore when I got back to bed and I think I said "Just shut up!" He said "What do you want me to do?" "Lose weight... you've gotten bigger as you've gotten bigger... you've gotten worse as you've gotten bigger" (I was so tired) He got out of bed and said "And get no sleep in the mean time". He ended up sleeping on the floor of the living room, with the fan going of course. I hate that. I got up at about 7am and the room was freezing. I had my shower and when I got out DD17 had DD2 in her arms to meet me. DP got up and I turned off the fan and put the heater on. DP sat on his computer. I got breakfast for the little girls, I'd checked on DD5 because she's usually up before DD2 and she was awake. I had breakfast myself, made DD5 lunch, got the little girls clothes, DD5 dressed herself, I dressed DD2. We did the school run, came home, DP was in the bathroom. He got out around 9.30, I left at about 9.45am. I had 2 meetings to get to, including craft. I ended up getting home around 2.15pm and left again at about 2.30pm to pick DD5 up early and get to a dentist appointment. DP wasn't home, he actually got himself to school. We visited my grandmother and headed home around 5pm, DP still wasn't home, he said he'd gone with some of his class to the library to work on an assignment. DD17 and I cooked tea and DP got home just before it was finished, maybe a bit after 6pm. He didn't move from the computer. We ate, DD17 made pancakes, I ran a bath for the little girls after tea and got them ready for bed. DD5 read her reader to me, it's usually DP's thing but he's been slacking off recently. DD2 was asleep by 8.15pm, she hadn't napped all day so that wasn't a surprise. I folded some washing and put most of it away before ending my day watching TV and crocheting. I went to bed at 10.15pm.
So now it's 5.40am and I've been awake for at least an hour, lying in bed cursing DP's snoring. I said "God I hate you" and he said "mmm?" and started snoring again. I tried blocking my ears, putting the pillow over my head, I could still hear him, so I gave up and got up. I wanted to go back to sleep, I was so tired and warm. Unlike DP once I get up I can't easily just go back to sleep, and I can't just sleep anywhere. The living room is too cold for a start, and it will take a while for the heater to warm it up. So I'm up for the day. Gives me time to update this I suppose. Might go and shower at 6am to warm up. I'm home for the day today, and if DP goes to school I'll have a day to myself, first one in sooooo long! I really need time home without DP here, he doesn't understand that though.
So now it's 5.40am and I've been awake for at least an hour, lying in bed cursing DP's snoring. I said "God I hate you" and he said "mmm?" and started snoring again. I tried blocking my ears, putting the pillow over my head, I could still hear him, so I gave up and got up. I wanted to go back to sleep, I was so tired and warm. Unlike DP once I get up I can't easily just go back to sleep, and I can't just sleep anywhere. The living room is too cold for a start, and it will take a while for the heater to warm it up. So I'm up for the day. Gives me time to update this I suppose. Might go and shower at 6am to warm up. I'm home for the day today, and if DP goes to school I'll have a day to myself, first one in sooooo long! I really need time home without DP here, he doesn't understand that though.
Monday, May 30, 2011
Monday
So this morning I was up at 6am and had my shower before I updated the last post. DP got up at 6.45am and went to the toilet then asked me what time it was before going back to bed! I was so pissed off by that. I started doing some dishes then put the kettle on to get myself breakfast. Shortly after that DD5 got up and I could hear DD2 stirring so when they were both up I got them breakfast. DP got up around 7.30am I think. The older 2 got up and got themselves ready to go to school, and I got DD5 ready. I took her and DD2 to school then came home. I'd put a load of washing on so DD2 and I went outside to hang it out, and the washing from yesterday that hadn't dried. Today is a much nicer day. I got a phone call from a friend that loves to talk so was on the phone to her for ages, I'd put more washing on so unloaded the machine and put another load on while we talked. I did some dishes and when I finally sat down DD2 sat with me and ended up going to sleep. She slept while DP was in the bathroom, from about 10.30-11.30am. She woke up and I gave her a snack and we went outside to hang out more washing. All this time DP was sitting on the computer, except for the hour or so he was in the bathroom. DD2 and I had some lunch, I asked DP if he wanted some but he said he has a massive headache. We've started a new diet for DD5 and DP is doing it as well. The rest of us are being a little lenient on it but we're mostly eating the same food. For DP the hard part is being off coffee, I've no doubt that's why he's having headaches, he's been quite addicted to coffee and softdrink and now he can't have either. I'm really hoping he'll stick to it but he's not good with following through. DD5 has to do it for 4 weeks, then we do challenges to see what foods we need to avoid for her. Anyway it's 2pm and DP has gone to bed. I pick DD5 up at 3pm and she's got sport today so there's my afternoon.
DP had told DS14 he would meet him in town today after school, I doubted it would happen. DS asked DP this morning if it was still happening and DP said yes. Before he went to bed he sent DS a text saying to come home, I knew he would do that. He seems to think they will go this afternoon after he's had a nap, but it won't happen. I wonder if he realises that DS will come to expect him to let him down just as I do now. He's so damn predictable. DS has been looking forward to this, I know it's going to be me that takes him into town. He wants to buy a scooter, he's saved up his money. DP was going to go with him but has been putting it off for ages. DS would have gone by himself but the shop isn't open on a weekend. I'd prefer someone else went, it's not really my area, but I can see that it will fall to me again, as usual.
Oh, before DP went to bed I commented to him about how sick I am with my life, me doing everything while he sits on the computer. That's all I said, then he rang and left a message on a driving instructor's machine about booking in for a lesson. Him having his licence would be nice, might take several lessons before that happens though.
DP had told DS14 he would meet him in town today after school, I doubted it would happen. DS asked DP this morning if it was still happening and DP said yes. Before he went to bed he sent DS a text saying to come home, I knew he would do that. He seems to think they will go this afternoon after he's had a nap, but it won't happen. I wonder if he realises that DS will come to expect him to let him down just as I do now. He's so damn predictable. DS has been looking forward to this, I know it's going to be me that takes him into town. He wants to buy a scooter, he's saved up his money. DP was going to go with him but has been putting it off for ages. DS would have gone by himself but the shop isn't open on a weekend. I'd prefer someone else went, it's not really my area, but I can see that it will fall to me again, as usual.
Oh, before DP went to bed I commented to him about how sick I am with my life, me doing everything while he sits on the computer. That's all I said, then he rang and left a message on a driving instructor's machine about booking in for a lesson. Him having his licence would be nice, might take several lessons before that happens though.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Over everything
I am so over it all atm. The holidays went far too quickly and ended with a very busy Easter and me exhausted at the end of every day of the long weekend. It also ended with DP so sick I thought I would need to take him to the hospital. He said he would see a dr "first thing Monday" but of course it was an extra long weekend with ANZAC day. So the Wednesday he went and came home with antibiotics and another appointment for the following Monday. I went in with him on the Monday and his dr said his lungs were sounding worse so gave him stronger AB's. He had asthma and bronchitis so was taking pulmicort and ventolin for the asthma. I said over the week that he should have another appointment but he didn't make one until the AB's ran out and he had a couple of days without any. I went with him that time as well and said to his dr that I thought he should've come back sooner! He got cortisone tablets to take for a week and had to make another appointment. Of course all this time he was missing school and napping most afternoons and pissing me off completely! And the cortisone made him feel really sick so he slept heaps while he was on that.
It's Monday 30th of May, 6.10am. DP got up about half an hour ago to go to the toilet and is now snoring so loudly I can hear him up the hallway. I got up and showered, I need to keep this blog updated. Yesterday was like every other Sunday. I did 3 loads of washing, hung out 2 that didn't dry anyway so I had to bring them in and put them on the airer. I managed to clean most of the bathroom, didn't get the floor mopped or the toilet clean so I will try to do that today. We have started an elimination diet so I also made failsafe anzac biscuits and tea took a while to prepare. DS helped by cleaning up the living room and moving furniture for me so we can look at making him a space of his own instead of sharing with his little sister. DP sat on the computer ALL DAY!!! Except when he went to the bathroom and had a shower. He has been known to go 3 days without a shower, recently I talked to him about how he needs to shower EVERY DAY. And he should change his clothes, it's really horrible but he will wear the same clothes for a few days, and he has worn the same shirt for about 2 weeks, maybe more. We only knew because it had a hole in it, all of his t-shirts are black and either from Target or Lowes. It annoys me because he has so many that he won't wear because Target shirts shrink and he already buys the biggest available so once they are washed he never wears them again. I've suggested just buying online and getting a 10x, Target goes to a 7x. If he's not going to try to lose weight then he can just accommodate and buy BIG.
So back to him going to school. DD17 needed a new phone, her's has been turning itself off and after a scare where she was followed home we wanted her to have something reliable. I suggested she swap phones with DP since he doesn't use his except to text me, he's always home anyway. DP thought it was a great idea and started looking at iphones for himself. He actually told my mum that he missed having a phone because he liked knowing what the kids were doing, he was home those 2 days anyway, he is good at taking something and making it sound the way he wants it to. So he put his name down to get one because they sell out as soon as they come in. He actually told me he took his name off the list and would get a prepaid instead, he'd had DD17's phone for a bit and got sick of it turning itself off, but I'd thought that him being on her prepaid plan ($20 a month and 1c text to the same provider) would be enough for him. He only text messages me mainly. But no, Tuesday I was out shopping and he rings me (from the landline to my mobile) to tell me he's been called about a 32g iphone. They'd come in and his name was on the list to get one and he wanted to go and pick it up. I'm not going to go into the conversations we'd had the week before about the cost of the damn plan. He's all excited about getting a phone he can tether to a laptop and surf the net on while he is "out and about". Now he's talked about that before and never gone anywhere so I'm pretty sceptical. I can't see the point of spending $100 a month on one phone. I don't know why I do this, years ago he got an expensive phone plan, they're all in my name because the first time he couldn't one and at least I get the discounts etc. So I'd said ok, but as he claimed it was a 'business phone' I wanted him to make an honest effort at running his 'business'. I'd said if he didn't this was the last time I was doing this for him. DS14 has that phone now, it's quite old, and here I am doing the same stupid thing. I told DP we would be done around 1.30pm but said he was supposed to go to school. I had lunch with my mum and headed home to find DP waiting for me. It was about 2pm when we got to the shop and were told that there were about 7 people ahead of us so we left, I wasn't hanging around waiting when I had to get DD5 from school at 3pm. So DP says Wednesday he has school all day, Thursday I go shopping, Friday morning I am busy and so he won't be able to get this phone unless he goes in himself Wednesday. They're only holding it till Friday. So I've said mum is coming over Wednesday for coffee on her way home and she ends up helping me tidy up. DP's sitting on the computer and it ends up that he's wanting to go out and get the phone. Now he never said that to me, he just got ready to go and then had a mini tantrum about mum being there. How long are you going to clean up for, he wanted to know. I wanted to go in and get this phone. I accused him of having a sook and spoke to mum saying we were going out. Oh, Tuesday I dropped DP at school but he was home by the time I got back after visiting Nanna, about 5pm. He didn't go at all Wednesday, it's supposed to be a full day, and he was like a kid at Christmas with his damn phone. He tried showing me what it could do but I'm not interested. It's in my name, $105 a month, he can do everything he wants with it so we'll see if he goes anywhere this time. I was out Thursday, he sent me a text saying he was meeting a guy at the library to do some assessment. He was home when I got back at 1.30pm saying he'd caught a bus in, guy wasn't there so he came home. I've no proof, I don't think he went anywhere though. Friday he also sent a text saying he'd gone in and done an assessment task that was over in 20 minutes so he was home when I got back after playgroup and lunch with mum, that was about 1pm I think. I don't believe anything he says these days, great basis for a relationship.
Oh, he was supposed to go to school on the 19th. I came back from shopping to him home, he said he'd rung Tafe and he didn't need to go in until Monday. So he rang Monday and tells me that whoever he spoke to Thursday had looked at the group 1 timetable and he was in group 2. So the Tuesday he rang me he was supposed to go to school, it would have been his first since term started back on the 27th of April! I'm still not convinced he's been yet, even though I took him that afternoon I don't think he actually attended class. But who knows, I'm just waiting to see if he actually passes this course. I'll be so pissed off if he fails, I want to kick him out but I don't know if I will be able to.
It's Monday 30th of May, 6.10am. DP got up about half an hour ago to go to the toilet and is now snoring so loudly I can hear him up the hallway. I got up and showered, I need to keep this blog updated. Yesterday was like every other Sunday. I did 3 loads of washing, hung out 2 that didn't dry anyway so I had to bring them in and put them on the airer. I managed to clean most of the bathroom, didn't get the floor mopped or the toilet clean so I will try to do that today. We have started an elimination diet so I also made failsafe anzac biscuits and tea took a while to prepare. DS helped by cleaning up the living room and moving furniture for me so we can look at making him a space of his own instead of sharing with his little sister. DP sat on the computer ALL DAY!!! Except when he went to the bathroom and had a shower. He has been known to go 3 days without a shower, recently I talked to him about how he needs to shower EVERY DAY. And he should change his clothes, it's really horrible but he will wear the same clothes for a few days, and he has worn the same shirt for about 2 weeks, maybe more. We only knew because it had a hole in it, all of his t-shirts are black and either from Target or Lowes. It annoys me because he has so many that he won't wear because Target shirts shrink and he already buys the biggest available so once they are washed he never wears them again. I've suggested just buying online and getting a 10x, Target goes to a 7x. If he's not going to try to lose weight then he can just accommodate and buy BIG.
So back to him going to school. DD17 needed a new phone, her's has been turning itself off and after a scare where she was followed home we wanted her to have something reliable. I suggested she swap phones with DP since he doesn't use his except to text me, he's always home anyway. DP thought it was a great idea and started looking at iphones for himself. He actually told my mum that he missed having a phone because he liked knowing what the kids were doing, he was home those 2 days anyway, he is good at taking something and making it sound the way he wants it to. So he put his name down to get one because they sell out as soon as they come in. He actually told me he took his name off the list and would get a prepaid instead, he'd had DD17's phone for a bit and got sick of it turning itself off, but I'd thought that him being on her prepaid plan ($20 a month and 1c text to the same provider) would be enough for him. He only text messages me mainly. But no, Tuesday I was out shopping and he rings me (from the landline to my mobile) to tell me he's been called about a 32g iphone. They'd come in and his name was on the list to get one and he wanted to go and pick it up. I'm not going to go into the conversations we'd had the week before about the cost of the damn plan. He's all excited about getting a phone he can tether to a laptop and surf the net on while he is "out and about". Now he's talked about that before and never gone anywhere so I'm pretty sceptical. I can't see the point of spending $100 a month on one phone. I don't know why I do this, years ago he got an expensive phone plan, they're all in my name because the first time he couldn't one and at least I get the discounts etc. So I'd said ok, but as he claimed it was a 'business phone' I wanted him to make an honest effort at running his 'business'. I'd said if he didn't this was the last time I was doing this for him. DS14 has that phone now, it's quite old, and here I am doing the same stupid thing. I told DP we would be done around 1.30pm but said he was supposed to go to school. I had lunch with my mum and headed home to find DP waiting for me. It was about 2pm when we got to the shop and were told that there were about 7 people ahead of us so we left, I wasn't hanging around waiting when I had to get DD5 from school at 3pm. So DP says Wednesday he has school all day, Thursday I go shopping, Friday morning I am busy and so he won't be able to get this phone unless he goes in himself Wednesday. They're only holding it till Friday. So I've said mum is coming over Wednesday for coffee on her way home and she ends up helping me tidy up. DP's sitting on the computer and it ends up that he's wanting to go out and get the phone. Now he never said that to me, he just got ready to go and then had a mini tantrum about mum being there. How long are you going to clean up for, he wanted to know. I wanted to go in and get this phone. I accused him of having a sook and spoke to mum saying we were going out. Oh, Tuesday I dropped DP at school but he was home by the time I got back after visiting Nanna, about 5pm. He didn't go at all Wednesday, it's supposed to be a full day, and he was like a kid at Christmas with his damn phone. He tried showing me what it could do but I'm not interested. It's in my name, $105 a month, he can do everything he wants with it so we'll see if he goes anywhere this time. I was out Thursday, he sent me a text saying he was meeting a guy at the library to do some assessment. He was home when I got back at 1.30pm saying he'd caught a bus in, guy wasn't there so he came home. I've no proof, I don't think he went anywhere though. Friday he also sent a text saying he'd gone in and done an assessment task that was over in 20 minutes so he was home when I got back after playgroup and lunch with mum, that was about 1pm I think. I don't believe anything he says these days, great basis for a relationship.
Oh, he was supposed to go to school on the 19th. I came back from shopping to him home, he said he'd rung Tafe and he didn't need to go in until Monday. So he rang Monday and tells me that whoever he spoke to Thursday had looked at the group 1 timetable and he was in group 2. So the Tuesday he rang me he was supposed to go to school, it would have been his first since term started back on the 27th of April! I'm still not convinced he's been yet, even though I took him that afternoon I don't think he actually attended class. But who knows, I'm just waiting to see if he actually passes this course. I'll be so pissed off if he fails, I want to kick him out but I don't know if I will be able to.
Monday, April 4, 2011
Nearly School Holidays
So, last Thursday and Friday DP had no school. I go shopping on Thursday so told him if he was going to be home all day he can do the kitchen. I got home about 2pm and he hadn't done much at all. At 3pm I picked up DD5 and went to mum's to meet the older kids and we had tea there. When we got home DP had at least done the kitchen, most of it anyway. Friday morning I said how I can't wait until I don't have the school run to do, how in the holidays I plan to stay home as much as possible. I told him I resent that I have to go out every morning, how nice it would be if he could take DD5 to school just one day a week. He took that to mean that I hate my social life and said I should give up something. I took on the responsibility that fills my Friday mornings, I am not going to shirk that. I compared it to him going to school, he should take that more seriously than he does. For some reason he takes me saying "I want to spend time at home alone" as "I want to leave DD2 with you when I go out"... idiot. That was our arguement for the day. Saturday I took the girls shopping for groceries. DP thought we were having lunch out so he and DS14 ate and he went for a nap at 12.30pm! We bought home McDonalds and put DP's in the fridge. We went to mum's in the afternoon so DS could mow for her and got a message from DP around 4pm asking if we'd left something in the fridge for tea. We had. Sunday mum bought the mower over and DS did here. DP had done some dishes that morning but did nothing the time mum was here. Actually DD17 was drying dishes when she arrived and the two of them did most of what was there. I pruned the rose out the front, I really want to get rid of the thing but there wasn't room in the bin. I also went out the back while DS was mowing and there is always a section he misses under the tree. I got the rake and had a look, DP's sister's stuff that he got sick of looking after is there - shoes, a bag, junk. I got rid of some but the rest will have to wait until I find some good gloves. I also realised that the laminater has been left outside the shed door. When I told DP he gave DS a dirty look and got a "what?" in return. I asked why he did it too, he says that besides himself DS is the only one that takes stuff out of the shed. It's likely he did it himself and doesn't remember though, he does that. How dare he blame my son though, jerk! Today is Monday, I was awake for about an hour listening to DP snore and when I got up it was about 3am. I sat up and watched tv for an hour when DP got up and said "Go to bed", it sounded like an order so I said "Excuse me?" and he repeated it but not so abruptly. He ended up staying up, and DD17 said when she got up at 6am DP was asleep in his chair and snoring. I got up at 7am and he was sitting on the computer. I took DD5 to school and have been home the rest of the day. I made a hand puppet with DD2 and then had a visitor around 10.30am. DP has sat on the computer all day though he did some dishes, a rackful. The sink is full. When DD2 had a nap at 12.15pm I tried to tidy my craft area. I have a long way to go. DP went to bed at 2pm. Now I'm off to get DD5, bring her home, get ready for her sport and go again.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
School's back so I have less time to blog.
Yes, it's been too long since I blogged, mainly because any time I have at home is precious to me housework-wise and I hate wasting time on the computer... when I am on the computer DP is home so I don't like to blog then either. I've wanted to document his time at school though, so I'd better do it now.
Yes, that's right, DP is at school. Well, TAFE... I've just realised that's an anagram for FATE LOL That may be important. Before I go into DP's timetable I'll just run over the children's schedule. DD17 is doing year 12 this year, she's a good girl and puts time into her studying, if her interim report is anything to go by. She's not doing her sport but comes with me when DD5 has hers. Technically she catches the bus and meets me there instead of going straight home. DS14 has had a birthday. He's still doing his sport on a Thursday night but the later class with the older group. DD5 started school this year. We had some issues with anxiety and her shyness but I think that's mostly settled down now. At least we're not having her say she feels sick in the mornings and she's happier for me to go after I walk her to class. DD2 is a chatterbox and with me almost all of the time. Right now she's happily playing in the living room, which is great. I don't leave the tv on all the time like DP would so she uses her great imagination.
So onto DP and the real reason for this blog. His job network paid nearly $1000 for him to go to Tafe this year. After a lot of mucking around he finally went to his first day on Tuesday 15th Feb. He only has an afternoon class Tuesdays. He went for a full day Wednesday 16th and ended up injuring himself. He thought he'd pulled a muscle in his calf. He skipped Thursday (afternoon) and Friday (morning) when he rang his dr because he was quite concerned. He got an appointment for Monday (no class) and was given antibiotics because his lymph nodes were swollen and his dr was concerned that he'd been bitten by a spider. There was the rest of that week gone as I'm sure he stayed home. Friday the 26th he stayed home with DD5 because she was unwell.
Week 3. I can't remember if he went on Tuesday 1st March, it's an afternoon class and I'm sure most Tuesdays I've come home before getting DD5 from school and he's been home. Wednesday I thought he was going to catch a taxi, he thought I was taking him. This was the first Wednesday DD5 had as Preps have them off for February. So he came with us, meaning we were running a little later than usual, I filled in a form for speech therapy then took DP to Tafe. I'm don't know if he went Thursday or Friday. I really can't remember, but I suspect he stayed home.
Week 4. Again, I'm unsure about Tuesday 8th. Wednesday 9th he caught a taxi in the morning and in the afternoon I got a stack of texts complaining about the rain and the fact that he was going to die, too much exercise I think LOL I ended up picking him up after I got DD5. Thursday 10th he didn't go, he was sending me texts in the morning and was home when I got back from shopping in the afternoon. Friday 11th he sent a text "School done, hour and a half of class, practical work to be done in groups in the libery, I finshed the damn work before I walked out the door, gone home. Waste of 12 dollars, hope your morning is going better then mine." 10.28am.
Week 5. Tuesday 15th, can't remember. Wednesday I got home around 9.30am and he asked if I'd had a call from Tafe. Apparently they were looking for his teacher who didn't turn up, Russell he called him. He got the phone and I suppose he called Tafe, that's what he claimed anyway. He said that he did and that he was told that this teacher "Russell" had committed suicide. He did say into the phone he would be there the following day, he told me that there would be counselling for the students. He didn't go. Thursday 17th "Got a call from one of my school mates, he's at tafe, and dos,nt know what's going on, police are there." 10.08am "I tryed to call the j building, but no answer, prob because police are there, johns been told to go home." 10.10am "John and a few others ar,nt going, so I invited them around here for a coffee." 10.58am. He sent a text saying he was going for a nap at 1.44pm. Friday the 18th. He told me that he'd invited classmates to our house to meet then go to Tafe, that didn't happen. He ordered our groceries online. He did that because we had a busy weekend coming up.
Week 6. On the 19th and 20th we went to a local festival. We also visited my mum on Sunday the 20th and DP was going to cook a roast. Then I got a text saying we were out of oil so I said he used too much the night before and why didn't he tell me so I could buy some. "And no, i din,nt use to much, and I din'nt metion it because I din'nt want you to go out of your way to get it, I,ll pick up oil tommorw when I,m in town." 4.51pm. It wouldn't have been hard for me to get some if I'd known. I text back about him not having school Monday and he sent "Because you think I,m avoiding school, so I,m going in from now on weather its on or not." He didn't go, I stay home Mondays. Tuesday 22nd he didn't go. I got a text "Lady and tafe called [bit about a phone call I had been expecting]" at 12.29pm so I sent one back about him still being at home. "Yep still here.................." "Wife reported him dead, looks like he's alive and kicking." "App will be on the news tonight, school as normal from here on in." I said I couldn't see what was news worthy about the whole thing, I didn't say I think he lied about it all. At 1.13pm his message was that he was going for a nap.
Wednesday 23rd he caught a taxi in the morning, I got the text at 10.43am, it was very late by the time he was ready considering class is supposed to start at 9am. "Watch, it,ll fucking piss down soon as I leave here" at 1.16pm. "Grrrrr" 2pm. "Meh I have to walk in it, should have taken an umbrella" 2.06pm to which I responded that DD17 told him to take one and told him where to find it. "School is not finshed tell 3pm" "Mine was a statement" "Bags not water proof, so I,ll wait tell I know its safe." "Unless your offering for a pick up of course." "The ststement was about school ending, not walking" I'd said something about not offering to pick him up but he could ask me if he wanted a lift but that DD2 was asleep and I wasn't going to wake her up until I had to get DD5, I think that was when he said school's not finished until 3pm. I told him he could make his own way home. He then asked about needing bread and said he would try to pick some up, that didn't happen.
Thursday 24th. "[landlord's] here, helping him fix the roof in the car port. After last nights down poor, prob a good idea." 11.41am He didn't go in at all, they fixed the gate as well. I was so angry that he missed another day of school. He didn't get it, he thought I'd be happy that the roof and gate were fixed. I was, DD2 had taken to getting out of the gate because it was broken. I just think he has missed far to many days, this was one more.
Friday 25th. He sent me a text with a photo of a class, supposedly taken to send to me but I honestly wouldn't put it past him to have one from a day he actually went and to have sent that. I'm out Friday mornings, I can't prove it either way.
Week 7. Tuesday 29th (yesterday). I was at mum's when I got a text - "home early, pizza for tea because its cheap tueday" at 2pm. Now he starts at 1pm, so that's not long at school at all. I sent a text back along the lines of "what were you at school half an hour then home?" and he sent back "about the, issued project and told us to bugger off, its on project communications, so I,m building a fourms board for all the students to commacate on about work." He then sent me 3 texts with name suggestions for a domain name that he plans to buy and when I said why should he buy something for a school project he said "Because I,m going to leave it up as a way of talking to humans after class, you know, make friends lol." Then last night he says he's chatting to a classmate on msn and he suggested another domain name. I'm not being very supportive, I just don't see why he should bother. I meant to ask for a sheet with the info about the project, he should have something. He also claimed that this person told him there is no class Thursday and Friday saying that Russell and Sharon are going to be away. I said I thought Russell was his teacher Wednesdays and he said no, that's Allen and Jason. He has Russell Tuesdays because this person he was 'chatting' to went back to ask Russell about the project and was told then.
Today he caught a taxi again, and as far as I know he's at school. He sent a text saying he gets along with the tech guy no-one else likes, I will have to ask if that's Allen or Jason or someone in the class LOL I hate not trusting him, but if he doesn't pass this course he can move out. I hate feeling like I am being lied to. He has no-one to blame but himself though, I've told him that saying he'll do something then not following through is just like lying. Now I've wasted a lot of time on here and I've got lots of housework so I have a tidy house before I get DD5 from school and DD2 is sleepy and cuddly. I must try to keep this more up to date. Apparently there is going to be a strike at Tafe, I wonder when. DP said that Sharon was striking, maybe that bit wasn't a lie, though where he gets this info I am still not sure.
Yes, that's right, DP is at school. Well, TAFE... I've just realised that's an anagram for FATE LOL That may be important. Before I go into DP's timetable I'll just run over the children's schedule. DD17 is doing year 12 this year, she's a good girl and puts time into her studying, if her interim report is anything to go by. She's not doing her sport but comes with me when DD5 has hers. Technically she catches the bus and meets me there instead of going straight home. DS14 has had a birthday. He's still doing his sport on a Thursday night but the later class with the older group. DD5 started school this year. We had some issues with anxiety and her shyness but I think that's mostly settled down now. At least we're not having her say she feels sick in the mornings and she's happier for me to go after I walk her to class. DD2 is a chatterbox and with me almost all of the time. Right now she's happily playing in the living room, which is great. I don't leave the tv on all the time like DP would so she uses her great imagination.
So onto DP and the real reason for this blog. His job network paid nearly $1000 for him to go to Tafe this year. After a lot of mucking around he finally went to his first day on Tuesday 15th Feb. He only has an afternoon class Tuesdays. He went for a full day Wednesday 16th and ended up injuring himself. He thought he'd pulled a muscle in his calf. He skipped Thursday (afternoon) and Friday (morning) when he rang his dr because he was quite concerned. He got an appointment for Monday (no class) and was given antibiotics because his lymph nodes were swollen and his dr was concerned that he'd been bitten by a spider. There was the rest of that week gone as I'm sure he stayed home. Friday the 26th he stayed home with DD5 because she was unwell.
Week 3. I can't remember if he went on Tuesday 1st March, it's an afternoon class and I'm sure most Tuesdays I've come home before getting DD5 from school and he's been home. Wednesday I thought he was going to catch a taxi, he thought I was taking him. This was the first Wednesday DD5 had as Preps have them off for February. So he came with us, meaning we were running a little later than usual, I filled in a form for speech therapy then took DP to Tafe. I'm don't know if he went Thursday or Friday. I really can't remember, but I suspect he stayed home.
Week 4. Again, I'm unsure about Tuesday 8th. Wednesday 9th he caught a taxi in the morning and in the afternoon I got a stack of texts complaining about the rain and the fact that he was going to die, too much exercise I think LOL I ended up picking him up after I got DD5. Thursday 10th he didn't go, he was sending me texts in the morning and was home when I got back from shopping in the afternoon. Friday 11th he sent a text "School done, hour and a half of class, practical work to be done in groups in the libery, I finshed the damn work before I walked out the door, gone home. Waste of 12 dollars, hope your morning is going better then mine." 10.28am.
Week 5. Tuesday 15th, can't remember. Wednesday I got home around 9.30am and he asked if I'd had a call from Tafe. Apparently they were looking for his teacher who didn't turn up, Russell he called him. He got the phone and I suppose he called Tafe, that's what he claimed anyway. He said that he did and that he was told that this teacher "Russell" had committed suicide. He did say into the phone he would be there the following day, he told me that there would be counselling for the students. He didn't go. Thursday 17th "Got a call from one of my school mates, he's at tafe, and dos,nt know what's going on, police are there." 10.08am "I tryed to call the j building, but no answer, prob because police are there, johns been told to go home." 10.10am "John and a few others ar,nt going, so I invited them around here for a coffee." 10.58am. He sent a text saying he was going for a nap at 1.44pm. Friday the 18th. He told me that he'd invited classmates to our house to meet then go to Tafe, that didn't happen. He ordered our groceries online. He did that because we had a busy weekend coming up.
Week 6. On the 19th and 20th we went to a local festival. We also visited my mum on Sunday the 20th and DP was going to cook a roast. Then I got a text saying we were out of oil so I said he used too much the night before and why didn't he tell me so I could buy some. "And no, i din,nt use to much, and I din'nt metion it because I din'nt want you to go out of your way to get it, I,ll pick up oil tommorw when I,m in town." 4.51pm. It wouldn't have been hard for me to get some if I'd known. I text back about him not having school Monday and he sent "Because you think I,m avoiding school, so I,m going in from now on weather its on or not." He didn't go, I stay home Mondays. Tuesday 22nd he didn't go. I got a text "Lady and tafe called [bit about a phone call I had been expecting]" at 12.29pm so I sent one back about him still being at home. "Yep still here.................." "Wife reported him dead, looks like he's alive and kicking." "App will be on the news tonight, school as normal from here on in." I said I couldn't see what was news worthy about the whole thing, I didn't say I think he lied about it all. At 1.13pm his message was that he was going for a nap.
Wednesday 23rd he caught a taxi in the morning, I got the text at 10.43am, it was very late by the time he was ready considering class is supposed to start at 9am. "Watch, it,ll fucking piss down soon as I leave here" at 1.16pm. "Grrrrr" 2pm. "Meh I have to walk in it, should have taken an umbrella" 2.06pm to which I responded that DD17 told him to take one and told him where to find it. "School is not finshed tell 3pm" "Mine was a statement" "Bags not water proof, so I,ll wait tell I know its safe." "Unless your offering for a pick up of course." "The ststement was about school ending, not walking" I'd said something about not offering to pick him up but he could ask me if he wanted a lift but that DD2 was asleep and I wasn't going to wake her up until I had to get DD5, I think that was when he said school's not finished until 3pm. I told him he could make his own way home. He then asked about needing bread and said he would try to pick some up, that didn't happen.
Thursday 24th. "[landlord's] here, helping him fix the roof in the car port. After last nights down poor, prob a good idea." 11.41am He didn't go in at all, they fixed the gate as well. I was so angry that he missed another day of school. He didn't get it, he thought I'd be happy that the roof and gate were fixed. I was, DD2 had taken to getting out of the gate because it was broken. I just think he has missed far to many days, this was one more.
Friday 25th. He sent me a text with a photo of a class, supposedly taken to send to me but I honestly wouldn't put it past him to have one from a day he actually went and to have sent that. I'm out Friday mornings, I can't prove it either way.
Week 7. Tuesday 29th (yesterday). I was at mum's when I got a text - "home early, pizza for tea because its cheap tueday" at 2pm. Now he starts at 1pm, so that's not long at school at all. I sent a text back along the lines of "what were you at school half an hour then home?" and he sent back "about the, issued project and told us to bugger off, its on project communications, so I,m building a fourms board for all the students to commacate on about work." He then sent me 3 texts with name suggestions for a domain name that he plans to buy and when I said why should he buy something for a school project he said "Because I,m going to leave it up as a way of talking to humans after class, you know, make friends lol." Then last night he says he's chatting to a classmate on msn and he suggested another domain name. I'm not being very supportive, I just don't see why he should bother. I meant to ask for a sheet with the info about the project, he should have something. He also claimed that this person told him there is no class Thursday and Friday saying that Russell and Sharon are going to be away. I said I thought Russell was his teacher Wednesdays and he said no, that's Allen and Jason. He has Russell Tuesdays because this person he was 'chatting' to went back to ask Russell about the project and was told then.
Today he caught a taxi again, and as far as I know he's at school. He sent a text saying he gets along with the tech guy no-one else likes, I will have to ask if that's Allen or Jason or someone in the class LOL I hate not trusting him, but if he doesn't pass this course he can move out. I hate feeling like I am being lied to. He has no-one to blame but himself though, I've told him that saying he'll do something then not following through is just like lying. Now I've wasted a lot of time on here and I've got lots of housework so I have a tidy house before I get DD5 from school and DD2 is sleepy and cuddly. I must try to keep this more up to date. Apparently there is going to be a strike at Tafe, I wonder when. DP said that Sharon was striking, maybe that bit wasn't a lie, though where he gets this info I am still not sure.
Sunday, January 23, 2011
What week are we again?
Ok, so it's been a week and I haven't found time to blog. I've been online, but don't like blogging if I'm going to risk DP finding out LOL So, this last week... DP was doing pretty well early on. Tuesday and Wednesday he did some dishes... one day he got out and said he tidied up some of the shed, which was really him throwing stuff on the crap pile. I told him I wish he wouldn't do that, add to that pile of crap. It's been there so long already and all he's done is make it bigger. So he won't do it again, he says. He talked about getting a skip bin, but they are so expensive. I suggested slowly putting what we could into the bin for collection but he says there's never much room after our normal rubbish goes out. So today there looked to be heaps of room, so I've stuck an old monitor from the crap pile into the bin.
Let's talk about Thursday and Friday though, I remember them being similar days and I intended to blog but got sidetracked (as happens a lot to me) I got up around 7am both mornings, Thursday DP was up already on the computer, Friday he slept longer. I did some dishes, put on a load of washing, hung out what was in the machine and bought in what was outside. DD5 got up around 7.30-8am, DD2 has been sleeping much longer. I think on Friday it was 10am when she, DD17 and DS 13 got up! I spent both mornings trying to sort out my craft cupboard. I've got some folders and have been putting patterns and things into them so I can find them. I also found stacks of stickers and embellishments for scrapbooking that I've tried to put together... they are everywhere! I've still got a way to go but I think I accomplished heaps. DP did next to nothing. I think he got lunch and tea. Friday afternoon I took the kids to my mum's, when we got home DP said "Spaghetti on toast for tea". Yuk, I really hate that, it's not very healthy. We'd had nachos for lunch Thursday, so actually the kids made that, and pizza for tea. Then leftover nachos for lunch Friday for me and the kids, so I made that. Actually DP was only making his own lunch - salad! So I made tuna pasta Friday night, and I washed bowls for us too because while we were gone DP didn't do the dishes.
Saturday morning I didn't do much, I got up later I think. I was taking the kids to the cinema at 11am and spent some of the morning chatting to my sister online. I had intended to blog then LOL DP had decided not to come with us saying he had cleaning up to do. Not that he did much. He did some of the dishes but this morning there was a days worth of mugs and cutlery in the bottom of the sink that I washed! We came home around lunch time, ate and then the kids wanted to go to the pool. I wasn't really in the mood but went anyway, you do these things for your children right... not that DP understands that. He can be so selfish! So we came home after about 1.5 hours and DP was right where we left him - on the computer. He'd decided we'd have spaghetti on toast, I said I hate it, so he got DD17 to put some soup in the microwave for me. It was much nicer than spaghetti out of a tin anyway LOL
Today has been a nothing day as well. I got up about 8.15am because DD2 had been wide awake at 5am and DP was snoring. He was asleep in his chair when I came out. I did some dishes, found all the cutlery in the bottom of the sink. I filled the rack twice, drying inbetween. DP never does that unless he gets DD17 to dry. What I left needed a bit of a soak. I went and had a shower, then must've had breakfast and sat on the computer for a bit. Mum got here at 10am with the lawn mower so DS13 could do our yard. I think it was midday when she left after doing some dishes. DD17 was cooking mini pinwheels for lunch so I ate then spent about an hour and a half trying to get DD2 to sleep. I've since been to the supermarket and that's been all I've done today. Mind you DP hasn't moved from the computer and TBH I am waiting for him to say he's going for a nap. He hasn't even had his salad for lunch. Sunday was going to be bathroom day, maybe I should try to motivate myself to at least do that. Will try later I think, I have no motivation to do anything right now. And why should I? I did bring in the washing before DS mowed... it will need folding and putting away. Such a never-ending cycle.
Let's talk about Thursday and Friday though, I remember them being similar days and I intended to blog but got sidetracked (as happens a lot to me) I got up around 7am both mornings, Thursday DP was up already on the computer, Friday he slept longer. I did some dishes, put on a load of washing, hung out what was in the machine and bought in what was outside. DD5 got up around 7.30-8am, DD2 has been sleeping much longer. I think on Friday it was 10am when she, DD17 and DS 13 got up! I spent both mornings trying to sort out my craft cupboard. I've got some folders and have been putting patterns and things into them so I can find them. I also found stacks of stickers and embellishments for scrapbooking that I've tried to put together... they are everywhere! I've still got a way to go but I think I accomplished heaps. DP did next to nothing. I think he got lunch and tea. Friday afternoon I took the kids to my mum's, when we got home DP said "Spaghetti on toast for tea". Yuk, I really hate that, it's not very healthy. We'd had nachos for lunch Thursday, so actually the kids made that, and pizza for tea. Then leftover nachos for lunch Friday for me and the kids, so I made that. Actually DP was only making his own lunch - salad! So I made tuna pasta Friday night, and I washed bowls for us too because while we were gone DP didn't do the dishes.
Saturday morning I didn't do much, I got up later I think. I was taking the kids to the cinema at 11am and spent some of the morning chatting to my sister online. I had intended to blog then LOL DP had decided not to come with us saying he had cleaning up to do. Not that he did much. He did some of the dishes but this morning there was a days worth of mugs and cutlery in the bottom of the sink that I washed! We came home around lunch time, ate and then the kids wanted to go to the pool. I wasn't really in the mood but went anyway, you do these things for your children right... not that DP understands that. He can be so selfish! So we came home after about 1.5 hours and DP was right where we left him - on the computer. He'd decided we'd have spaghetti on toast, I said I hate it, so he got DD17 to put some soup in the microwave for me. It was much nicer than spaghetti out of a tin anyway LOL
Today has been a nothing day as well. I got up about 8.15am because DD2 had been wide awake at 5am and DP was snoring. He was asleep in his chair when I came out. I did some dishes, found all the cutlery in the bottom of the sink. I filled the rack twice, drying inbetween. DP never does that unless he gets DD17 to dry. What I left needed a bit of a soak. I went and had a shower, then must've had breakfast and sat on the computer for a bit. Mum got here at 10am with the lawn mower so DS13 could do our yard. I think it was midday when she left after doing some dishes. DD17 was cooking mini pinwheels for lunch so I ate then spent about an hour and a half trying to get DD2 to sleep. I've since been to the supermarket and that's been all I've done today. Mind you DP hasn't moved from the computer and TBH I am waiting for him to say he's going for a nap. He hasn't even had his salad for lunch. Sunday was going to be bathroom day, maybe I should try to motivate myself to at least do that. Will try later I think, I have no motivation to do anything right now. And why should I? I did bring in the washing before DS mowed... it will need folding and putting away. Such a never-ending cycle.
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