Great day for accomplishment

I've had a productive day today. It's 10.50am and I've just sat down with coffee and bikkies, DP got them for me and set up this computer. Probably to make me sit LOL

I was up at 7am and showered. DP had gotten up about 20 mins earlier and opened a can of Rockstar, an energy drink. I don't think it's really a good way to start the day myself. He made me a milo and I got toast. I went on Facebook and did Farmville and Cafe World before DD 16 packed up her computer to take to school. DD 4 got up and had a milo. DP went to the bathroom and I started tidying the living room. When he got out I was vacuuming the air con. He said he was planning to take the a/c out until next summer. That would give me the chance to clean the window so I don't mind. At the moment the a/c is put into the open window with a cardboard cutout above it stuck in with packing tape. It's been like that for the 3.5 years since the landlord put it in. He bought it because we'd had DD 4 in the winter and it was her first summer. DP rang today to get a price on perspex, $100 roughly. There is a big black house spider living between the 2 pieces of glass, and it's full of webs that I can't get get rid of, it looks horrible.

So I vacuumed up the spider webs on the walls and in the window behind the curtains. I moved the sofa and chairs and vaccied under them. I've done about half the living room and took a break. I'm on the phone now, have been for nearly 30 mins, chatting to a friend. While I was doing the living room DP has been on the computer. I defrosted the freezer too, cleaned it out before I sat down. I said we need to get the old fridge resealed, DP rang to get a price on that too - $155 for just the fridge or $185 for the fridge and freezer. So he looked on ebay and found seals for $55 delivered for the fridge and $85 for both. So $100 for installation... I reckon I could do it LOL The other thing DP has been doing is researching coeliacs and gluten free living. I'm not sure why but he's thinking it may be his "problem". He mentioned watching what he was eating and the reaction afterwards. Now he is playing WoW and has been since I sat down to have coffee... and he just headed to the bathroom again. Damn, I wanted to go LOL Oh well. Off to finish cleaning up I think.

Exhausted

So it's been a week since I was here. The computer I was using has started to die, the fan is going. Last week I was hardly online at all, including Facebook! Mainly because DD 16 takes her computer to school so I could only get online when DP was off his computer. That was Facebook time, while he was in the bathroom. At one point last week I commented that it would be harsh if he had to share his computer! He just said "yes it would" and that was it.

What has my week been like? Well, today DD 4 had a birthday party to attend and DD 16 went to her boyfriend's house because they've been "going out" for a year now. I went to mum's while the party was on and DD 16 met us there. As I left this afternoon I said to DP that I would like him to do some dishes, "cooking tea is not your only chore, there are other things that need to be done" I said. He's still not 100% these days, but I don't think I remember a time where he has gone very long without being "ill". Anyway I was out from 12.30-3pm and he has done some dishes. He also says he will get off the computer "soon" and move the living room around because I put the clothes airer in front of his seat and he can't watch TV. It's not been an issue for long but will be for the rest of the winter depending how often he decides he will sit with the rest of us instead of being on the computer. The heater is between DP's seat and the TV and I put the clothes near it to dry. DD 1 is asleep at the moment, I want to do some craft but will update here first.

Why am I exhausted? As I drove to the party today I was feeling both emotionally and physically drained. I've been sleeping in lately, not good really. I have to go to bed before 11pm to get up at a reasonable time (to me) Yesterday DP headed to bed at about 9pm, well before the children went to bed - they wanted to watch Toy Story 1 and 2 on TV. He was getting pains that he described as feeling like he'd accidentally eaten a glass bottle. He reckons he doesn't want to eat bread or have cereal as it was his initial feeling that he'd had too much fibre. I don't know if that's even possible. Besides which we only have white bread, certainly not much fibre in that LOL He had that same pain earlier, not sure if I managed to post about that here. Maybe it was last weekend. DS 13 had stomach pains Tuesday so had the day off school. DP has an appointment tomorrow with the nurse/doctor... he needs to get another assessment to get another referral to the counsellor.

Maybe I will backtrack to last weekend. We went shopping, we often do on weekends though I am trying to stop that habit - I'd prefer to go on Monday when the kids are at school, then we can spend the weekend doing some cleaning up around the house. Gives the kids time at home to do their rooms too. So DP decided to buy some walking poles. My fault, I saw them marked down to $20 and pointed them out. He also bought exercise gloves and a skipping rope, and a single wrist weight that was on the clearance rack. The latter 2 are still sitting in their bag here on my chair. The poles he took out and was playing with when he realised one wouldn't fit together properly so had to go back. We spent heaps of money that day. I think it was Saturday. He wanted to go out again Sunday but I wanted to spend time at home. He'd talked about going himself but then didn't. I think I took the kids to visit mum.

Monday we stayed home until I had to do the sports run. Tuesday was craft and visit Nanna day. Wednesday was another day at home but DP had done some work on Tuesday and had to pick up his payment for that. We headed in to town when DS 13 got home, we'd sent a message to DD 16 via her boyfriend because DP had her phone but she didn't get it. We came home and picked her up then went out to return DP's walking poles. I was going out there again on Thursday but oh well. DD 16 lost her phone for talking back to DP. I did have a conversation with him about how he needs to warn her then back off and let her cool down. What tends to happen is "Stop talking to me like that or I'll take your phone"... "Give me your phone". Then he wonders why she's constantly angry. They are as bad as each other, honestly. I suggested getting counselling - or some help with how to deal with teens. Perhaps some help for all of us as a family. DP doesn't think we need it.

Thursday I was out until 12.30pm, Friday I took the little girls to an indoor play centre with our playgroup. That was great fun actually. So it's been a 'normal' week for me. The days I've been home I've been trying to sort out the kitchen and living room. I've wanted to vaccum since Wednesday but it's still not done. It's like I get things sorted a bit then suddenly the room explodes. And the dishes! Mum came over on Thursday and did them for us! You couldn't tell by Saturday (yesterday) Yesterday was another day at home, I didn't feel like I did much though. I was doing the dishes and almost caught up. DP and DS 13 went to the cinema - they caught a taxi there and then DP rang me when it was finished and asked if I could pick them up. There are roadworks on the way there, I was fuming by the time I picked them up. I told DP I would like it if next time he is more "self sufficient"... they were going to go shopping only DP needed to use the bathroom and was desperate to get home.

It's 4.50pm and DP has just gotten up to start tea... I will get off here, not ready for him to know this exists LOL

Finally - we have cake!

Yes, this afternoon DP has made some vanilla cupcakes and a chocolate cake. He's talking about making melting moments and condensed milk biscuits but I won't hold my breath. He's quite involved in WoW at the moment, clicking away there busily LOL

He got up before me again this morning, 6.30am he said. I was up about 7.15am and went to have my shower. He'd made DD 4 a milo, DD 1 was awake when he got up but he said he didn't realise. I stayed in bed with her - we co-sleep - and she dropped off for another hour. I had to get DD 4 breakfast, DP was already on the computer. DD 1 got up as I did that so I got her a bottle. I'd heard the water running in the sink before I got up, but it turned out it was just DP rinsing out his coffee plunger. I'm a bit annoyed, I wish he'd clean out the sink when he does that. He also empties it on top of any dishes that may be in the sink. Today it was just a plate and cup, earlier in the week it was all over the dish cloth and in a saucepan. Anyway I got a few dishes done before DD 1 got up. She was a bit grumpy so I cuddled her for a while. The older 2 caught buses again, so I just had to get the little ones dressed in time to leave at about 9am. There was a meeting at DS's school then we went to playgroup. Mum wasn't home so I got home at 12.30pm. DP was watching Dr Phil! I was pretty surprised, but it was about serial killers so just the sort of thing he'd be interested in. I've done very little this afternoon. I was hungry at 10am but didn't eat until we got home. DD 1 was tired but fighting sleep until about 1.45pm. DD 4 has games from kinder that she wanted to play but "no babies" so DD 1 had to be asleep. We've done the giant floor puzzle and played the game now. The older ones will bus it home again so I am going to watch Judge Judy shortly then I should probably get stuck in to the dishes... unless DP goes back in the kitchen to cook. He started at about 12.45pm, not long after we got home, and the last cake came out at least 30-40 minutes ago.

He's in a group it sounds like, on WoW. So that's why he's so involved. They'll be battling someone else's group... yep, he said they are going up in the ranks. Can kiss goodbye to this afternoon then. He's still coughing, but at least has the puffer. He's meant to take it twice a day. Hopefully he gets over it... mind you he's asthmatic and has been prone to getting chest infections every winter. I'm tired myself, nearly dropped off cuddling DD 1. Time for coffee and JJ I think.

Still sick

I was out all morning today, as usual on a Thursday. I didn't think about DP's script until I was out. He'd said he would ring about a job, might 'try' to get out and about. He didn't, and he didn't do any housework... he's still feeling pretty crap. He was coughing as we had lunch. He was reading the news online and said there have been more deaths related to asthma this year compared to last year. That's comforting. So I took his script and got it filled this afternoon. He said he was "scared" to take it LOL It's a corticosteroid puffer. He took it eventually. The kids and I had tea with mum tonight. DS 13 had sport, I picked him up and took him to mum's to eat then he headed to youth group. I had a coffee with mum then got the little ones home. Finally around 9pm they were both asleep, I left to get the older 2 around 9.20pm.

Yesterday we went to look at the school at 11am, then went to pay my car registration, then we went shopping and got home at about 1.30pm. DP cooked tea. Actually he was going to make a cake - or so I thought. I was doing the dishes and he commented on wanting the kitchen so I got out. Our kitchen is really small. Anyway I said I'd get on his computer to check my email and he said I couldn't because he was transferring something. Next thing I know he's on the computer himself. He put tea in, it was only about 4.30pm but the older 2 were saying they were starving LOL So frustrating, he spent the night on WoW again.

This morning he was up with DD 4 when I woke up, he said she got up around 6-6.15am I think. I truly expected he would have had a nap today, instead he has gone to bed before me! There are so many dishes to do right now but I am far too tired, as usual. Instead I will watch Medium before I go to bed.

Time to find DD 4 a school

Yes, DD 4 will be off to school next year, scary. It's Education Week so most of the local schools are having info sessions and open days. The plan is to look at a school near here today, if we don't like it we'll have to look elsewhere, so I'm hoping it's all good. DP just went to get ready. He was up with us at 7am and I went and had my shower while he got the little girls milos. DD 1 came up to cry at the bathroom door and call out to me, she stopped for milo DP said. He's been on the computer since - trying to get an app to work on his ipod I think. He bought it last Friday when he was out with his brother. He said his brother had said he bought one for his wife so DP decided it would annoy his brother if he bought one too. An ipod touch, just to clarify. Not sure how much use it will actually get, but it does explain why he gave his 'old' ipod to DD 16 if she passed her's to DS 13. I sort of expected it to be honest. I'm annoyed this morning though because while the older 2 caught buses I've still been busy. I put on some laundry, spent 30 minutes combing conditioner through DD 1 and DD 4's hair then gave them a bath. All that time DP was on his computer. He commented that he couldn't make something in Publisher then convert it to PDF without the whole thing moving around. When I walked past he was looking at a WoW forum. Then at 9am he said he'd go and get ready when I got the girls out of the bath, but he took an extra half an hour, of course. Meanwhile I got DD 1 dressed, help DD 4 get dressed, and then got them more toast because they were hungry. Then I've jumped on Facebook until DP went to the bathroom so I can type this up without him here.

Yesterday DD 1 didn't have another nap. I picked up DD 4 and DD 16 met me so we could go out to see their coach. We've ordered what we need. I got a message from DP at 3pm saying he was going for a nap. He left a message for DS 13 but he didn't see it so called me when he got home at 4pm. We got home around 4.30pm because we stopped at Spotlight, oops LOL. I did some dishes and make chicken and corn soup for tea. I even made cheese scones to go with it. DP got up about 6pm, right when we were eating. I told him he was only allowed to have 2 scones, so he grabbed them and sat on his computer again. He doesn't like soup apparently. He had said he'd do some cooking because he'd been asleep for the afternoon, when I went to bed around 11pm he asked if we have eggs - we do. This morning the mixing bowl was out with the beaters and a cake mix, I guess he got too caught up in WoW. Before DD 4 went to bed she wanted a story - DP told her he was "working"... that struck me as odd, he was on WoW. I guess it has something to do with this whole competition thing. He was talking about the "haves" and the "have-nots" in WoW. The people who have been playing longer and have better gear have the ability to get more better gear while those that don't have it aren't getting the opportunity to get it. There is also the "pallies" or Paladins that are far superior characters so most people want to one. DP calls them idiots characters because you don't need any real talent to be one - their abilities are such that they can beat the other characters easily. In one group of 40 last night he said there were 23 pallies. He reckons Blizzard - the company behind WoW - don't care, they've designed it that way. DP also thinks WoW has written their own death certificate, because new players won't want to come in, and the "have-nots" won't stay around for much longer. But that's his ranting LOL

I should try to do some dishes before DP gets out of the bathroom, though he's only been there for 20 minutes. DD 4 wants some morning tea too.

All Day WoW... again

So yesterday, instead of being the day home I'd hoped, became a day of running around with a little time in between. DD 4's appointment was 11.45am so we left just after 11.30am. The dr was running late, as they so often do, so I didn't get home until nearly 12.30pm. DP had said he'd go and have a nap while we were out, and to wake him when we got home. DD 4 said she would body slam him, but she didn't. She did go in and he woke up then went back to sleep. At 1pm I went in and told him that he had an hour until he had to go to the dr himself. He finally got up and I got some lunch for us all. He sat on WoW, I cuddled DD 1 and she fell asleep half an hour before we'd have to leave to get DP to the dr. It became apparent that he wasn't going to get himself there. I had to wake DD 1 up at 2pm so we could leave. DP didn't get up until I said I was putting the girls in the car, then he was running around looking for his wallet! He'd had plenty of time to sort himself out. I took the girls to a nearby shop and DP walked up when he was finished, we got home at 3pm. DS 13 caught a bus home, DD 16 sent me a message when she was on her way to her sport so I could leave and meet her with her equipment. That was about 4pm. DP cooked tea and we ate at about 6.30pm. I had to get DD 16 at 7.30pm. I did go looking for stuff to put up on ebay, DP still hasn't done any more than take a photo. I watched TV and went to bed at 11pm.

This morning DP got up with the rest of us and made milos for me and the little girls. He got them some breakfast a bit later. I'd had a shower before DD 1 woke up which was a nice change. DP sat on WoW and was there when I left to take DS 13 to school and DD 4 to kinder. We were ready earlier today, I had the little ones dressed and made DD 4 lunch and even got my stuff together for craft! I also emptied the machine and put another load of washing on. I hung both out when I got home at midday, and put another load on to wash. DP made us lunch and I've been on the computer since, lazy LOL He was on WoW when I got here and is still playing now. He has a friend's computer sitting here to fix, had it since last Thursday night. He was chatting to his brother on WoW when I got home apparently. Often that's his excuse for being on there, it's the only time he gets to chat to his brother, or his friend. I have less than an hour then I'll go get DD 4. DD 16 is meeting me at kinder so we can go out and buy DD 4 something for sport. DD 1 is cuddly, so I might go and watch The Hills for a bit :P

Raising Teenagers

This morning we had an arguement. DD 4 got a cough last night, and spent much of the night breathing shallowly, almost panting. DD 1 was just restless, at one point I sat up and rocked her. DP got up with DD 4 at 6.30am when it was obvious she wasn't going to sleep again. We're going to book her in to the dr today, hopefully get an appointment for today too (just rang and have an 11.45am app). So I told DD 16 that we wouldn't be taking DD 4 to sport tonight, so she could catch a bus. She was quite upset and throwing dirty looks at DP. He was putting his comments in and even to me it sounded mean. I was saying "Look, it's just for today, it's not like you get paid to help with the younger ones, you'll just be a little late". DP told her she could take her equipment to school with her. She had to catch a bus to school, then bus it from there to sport. I thought that was a bit mean, but DP was being insistent. DD 16 was quite upset by this too. I ended up telling DP that since I would normally make the drive anyway that I would take her equipment out in time for her class. He was saying it wouldn't hurt DD 16 to do it once, that he thought it would be less inconvenient for me to not have to do it etc. We've discussed recently that her school books are very heavy, so I said it was hardly fair to expect her to take another bag as well. So I got it my way and will take DD 16 her equipment, she will let me know what time she'll get out there.

After she left I discussed it all with DP again. I said I don't like the way they fight. He says I don't hear how both DD 16 and DS 13 talk to him and that he's polite "for weeks" before he snaps. I said it's not like that at all, I know they all talk that way to each other. I said someone has to be polite, and he's the adult so he should do it first. I think that's when he said he does that already. I hear him talk to the kids and it sounds mean to me too. He says he uses his "deadpan voice" and they still react that way. I said that's because using no emotion is the same as hate, if there is no emotion then there is nothing. He didn't get it. I said that people use emoticons when they type because no emotion is a bad thing. I said he'd done psychology for a bit, how did that not make sense to him. I said he needs to try using compassion.

When we were discussing things with DD 16 there I commented that just because DP's parents would have expected him to get around by himself that was no excuse to treat DD 16 the same way, he said not to bring up his parents. So without DD there I said that because his parents had no compassion he has no idea how to parent because he had no role model. I suggested we get counselling as a family because I am so sick of how he and DD 16 fight. He says it's "normal", that it's just the way they are, that it's fine. It's not fine, I hate it. He treats my older 2 differently to the younger ones, I said that fine; I prefer to think that it's because the little ones are younger, not that they are his. He needs help parenting teenagers because he has no idea. Not to say that I am an expert. DP often says "how would you react if they talked to you that way". He knows how I react, the difference is he feels they think it's "ok" to treat him that way, they wouldn't do it to me. I've told him in the past that it's because of the way he tries to parent them. Sitting on the computer and telling them to clean the house is not fair. I don't do that. I ask for help but I am busy doing other housework. The closest he gets is when he washes some dishes then says to DD 16 "do some drying", then he sits on the computer. He doesn't even get up straight away when she's done most of the time. Plus the way he asks is often that blunt, sometimes he'll be more polite and even use a "please".

Besides all that the weekend went as usual. DP on the computer for most of it, he slept in yesterday. I think he was up and went back to bed about 7am because I got up with DD 4 at 7.30am. He ended up getting up around 11am. He at least did some work last Thursday! And he went and picked up payment Friday - with his brother! So I didn't have to go LOL It was Friday afternoon, I'd had the girls at playgroup in the morning and was home ALONE! Alone meaning without DP of course, it was SO NICE! I got heaps of dishes done - not that you can tell this morning. I did heaps yesterday too... they don't take long to multiply :(

Running out of titles without repeating myself

Early Tuesday morning I was lying in bed awake and trying to go back to sleep. I heard DD 4 get up and use the potty and DP said "DD4's up"... I thought he said he gets up to her overnight, but obviously it was 'my turn'. I emptied the potty and got DD 4 to lay back in her bed, I checked the time - 4am... and I couldn't get back to sleep once I got up. I lay there awake thinking "that's it, I won't get up in time now"... I actually said that to DP too, I was so annoyed. He can get up and then he's snoring within seconds of laying back down. Which is what happened, I fell asleep to his annoying snore. I'm not sure what time he got up, DD 4 was up when I woke up and DP was asleep in his chair - it was 7.30am. I went and showered, it's a day out on Tuesday. DP moved when I got out of the shower, 7.45am. He told me to sit and have breakfast and made me a milo. I hate sitting down first thing in the morning, I end up running late. I did some things on Facebook and before I knew it it was 8.15am. I got the little girls clothes and got them dressed. DD 16 had caught the bus, DS 13 was getting himself ready. DP actually made DD 4 her lunch! I was very surprised, that's the first time ever I think. I was running around looking for hairbrushes, shoes, stuff to take to craft... I really need to organise all that the night before I think. I got DS 13 to school on time and was actually a little early for DD 4's kinder. We went out for lunch with the craft group so I got home at 1.30pm. DP hadn't been anywhere but had chatted to the photographer on the phone again. He said the guy was busy... but would be coming here Wednesday to see him. ARGH!!!! DP hadn't done anything except fill the sink with hot water. I honestly don't know what I did when I got home, but I had less than an hour until getting DD 4 and visiting Nanna. We got home at 5pm, DP was making mince for tea. After tea I realised I needed to do a lot of tidying before a business person came here! I did dishes, cooked anzac biscuits... DD 1 fell asleep at 6.30pm, before we ate tea. She stirred a few times. At 8.30pm I was cooking and watching tv, then at 9pm I sat down for a rest. There were still dishes to do but I thought I could do them in the morning. DD 1 woke up and needed a nappy change at 10pm, I took her to bed at 10.30pm.

DP got up and went to the bathroom this morning, then came back to bed and started snoring. DD 1 was kicking me so I got her out of bed, it was 7.15am. DD 4 got up soon after so I got them both breakfast. DD 16 was out at 7.30am so I left her in charge of the little ones so I could have my shower. I got out and put a load of washing on, and took out what was in the machine. DD 16 and DS left to catch their buses and I got stuck in to the dishes. I went to find DD 1 some slippers and DP woke up, it was 8.15am. He got up, I told him our house is not really good for having people come to, I said appearances count a lot. He says "It's a house with 4 kids"... umm, that's no excuse as far as I'm concerned. At 9.30am he headed to the bathroom, knowing the photographer was arriving at 10am. Thankfully he was quick and was out in 20 minutes! He hadn't showered but had changed his clothes. I was running around trying to tidy the floor at the time, I'd swept when he got out and his office area was much more respectable from the front door. When the photographer arrived I finished the dishes, the kitchen is almost completely finished - to me that means getting rid of some of the "clutter", which is all I need to do now. I haven't done anything in the living room. When the photographer left it was 11am and I've been on the computer for most of the time since then. I feel really lazy. The kids are getting themselves home... I meant to bath the little ones but couldn't with the photographer here, then was waiting to have lunch, then it was too freezing cold in the house - the heater is on up the hallway now so should be warmer. I might bath them now, DD 4 is in her pj's still - ok if it was a weekend LOL DP played WoW over lunch, now he's looking at cameras. He says he's looking for me... he had showed me a video camera earlier. I wonder why... he goes through these stages of wanting to spend money. I've been on here enough... I had to put a coat on it was so cold! Even with the heater in the living room on I'm cold. I hate winter!

Busy at home

Well, as expected I got up to the biggest mess of a kitchen... I took a photo. I was up at 6.45am with DD 4 so I got stuck in to the dishes. DD 1 got up around 7.15am. I got the little girls breakfast and decided to have some myself, then kept cleaning the kitchen. DS 13 and DD 16 both caught their buses in to school, DS said he would catch one home so I didn't have to pick him up. I got most of the kitchen tidied before DP got up at 9am, he got out of the bathroom at 9.40am by which time I'd had a call from a friend so said I'd go over there for a coffee. I was home by 11am and DP was having toast and coffee, though who knows, maybe it was his 2nd or 3rd.

DD 4 had stayed home, I took DD 1 with me. I hung out 2 loads of washing that had been done before I left and put another load on which got hung out after lunch. At midday I got lunch for myself and the girls because DP had not long finished 'breakfast'. DD 1 had a nap and I cleaned the top of the stove and the inside of the microwave. I forgot about the plate, I put it in the sink to soak with other stuff and when I got home at 5.30pm DP was heating food without it. DS ended up washing it so he could heat up wheat bags for bed.

I also made cupcakes before I had to get DD 16 and take her, DD 1 and DD 4 to Monday sport at 3.30pm. I sat down at 2.45pm because there didn't seem to be enough time to start anything, and I was waiting for the plastic ware to air dry before doing more dishes. I might try to finish them tonight, they won't get done tomorrow. DP had rung the photographer and found he was on his way to a job so he's booked in to see him tomorrow at midday - same thing as today, he will have to get himself there. Tomorrow I will be busier than today! DP got tea, leftovers with noodles. Then I checked and asked if there was enough for DD 16 and he hadn't left enough. He said "there's some in the white bowl" and I showed him - there wasn't much at all. He said "I thought I'd left enough, sorry" and he ended up putting some that he'd served himself back so at least DD 16 had a meal. Meanwhile the mince from yesterday seems to have been left out - I can't believe he reheated all of it then put some back. That's a whole other story there. He's pulled it out for tonight too. He probably would have told DD 16 to eat that, but I'd told her we were having sweet and sour and she was looking forward to that.

DP spent today on the computer. He was trying to work on Ebay - last August he said he would put up all these clothes he has that he doesn't wear. He set up a 'store' that he's been paying for since then and not using!!! $20 a month down the drain. So he was 'researching' things like postage and how to use Ebay, and he 'sorted' out the clothes. He actually took some and tried them on so there's a new pair of shorts he has to wear - maybe he has lost some weight, they didn't fit him before. Many of the clothes are t-shirts from Target, 7X, the biggest you can get. He wears them once (or continually for a week) and then I would wash them and they would shrink so he wouldn't wear them again. He used to try stretching them, but he's been wearing 7X for years... and in the last 5 or so he put on 30 or more kilos, so stretching just doesn't work any more. Anyway now he's in the bathroom but he was playing WoW... in fact it is still up on his computer and he's left the box fan running... I hate it when he does that. Our electricity bill is just ridiculous!

Will try for another early night tonight, so I can get up early tomorrow. GNW is on, I don't think I want to do dishes, I might miss something funny ROFL

Mother's Day continued

DD 1 fell asleep soon after I posted. While I mostly watched tv and sat on the computer I also took the time to try out dyeing a t-shirt. I think I need more practice. DP ordered pizza for tea at about 4.30-5pm. Didn't take long to arrive. The pizza guy pointed out this gigantic spider and DP said "we'll take care of it", which of course meant I would. I sprayed it with heaps of fly spray and it took ages to die. It's body was bigger than a 5c piece, I wonder if it was a pregnant black house spider. Anyway, had tea and watched a movie. When DP gave me my plate he wanted a kiss. I pointed out that all I wanted was the dishes done, and he said "and did you notice I did some". Yes, I noticed, but there were still lots to do. He asked if I would watch him do the rest and I said yes, as long as they were done by 11pm as that's when I would go to bed. It's 10.20pm now and I'm going to write this then go to bed. No more dishes have been done at all, they will be there in the morning no doubt. Or he will do the crockery and leave all the cutlery and pots and pans. He just said he'll go in first thing and see the photo guy that he's going to do the website for. So that means 2 things - he's promised me to do something that won't get done and he says he'll go in to town himself so he will possibly ask for money for a taxi. I have none. He asked if I had any money at lunch time, I think he was talking to the kids about going to get chips (them, not him) Will see what tomorrow brings... but I think I have a lot of housework to catch up on. The kids tidied the living room (did I post that already?) I brought in all the washing so have to fold it up. The kitchen... argh!!!

Off to watch the rest of House and put the left over pizza in the fridge... want to defrost the fridges at some point. Sigh...

Worst Mother's Day ever :(

It started off nice enough. DP had told me to stay in bed so he could make pancakes, I was awake for a while then when DS 13 walked past (he'd just got up I think) I asked him to grab my sudoku book for me. I heard DP say "Don't!" and DS told him I'd asked him to get something. DP asked if he'd woken me up and I yelled "NO!" down the hallway. I heard DD 16 yelling the recipe for pancakes at DP. Apparently he'd text messaged her in her room, she told him to google it and he said he had. Yeah, like he told me he'd rung the minister last Tuesday then had to ask me what the phone number was on Wednesday because he couldn't find it online. So how did he call the day before? Surely if you can do something once you can do it again the next day.

Anyway, I got pancakes and maple syrup, they were really nice. DD 1 and DD 4 stole some of mine then DD 4 went out to get her own and DD 16 came up to eat hers with me. I got up and it was about 9am. I went and had a shower then spent the morning sitting in front of the tv, mostly with DD 1 and DD 4 climbing up and down on me. DP sat in front of his computer the whole time. He said he thought he'd make scones and soup for lunch. I asked DD 16 if she'd come and watch 'The Hills' with me, halfway through it DP asked her to get the little girls dressed. I admit she didn't say it nicely, but she said she was watching something and she'd do it afterward. DP yelled at her and told her to get DD 4 some clothes and then go to her room. I told him I'd said she could watch tv with me. I called her out to watch the second ep. Then at 12.30pm I started folding and putting away clothes. DP asked DD 16 to make the scones and she was rude back to him. He was speaking similarly to her though, I don't think he realises. I tidied stuff off the couch and DS found a pen, he mindlessly clicked it, I can't say I noticed. DP however yells "Put that pen in the bin" and started saying he'd been telling DS 13 not to click it all morning - "he just picked it up then" I said. "He's been clicking a pen all morning, he knows he shouldn't do it" says DP. Grrr!!! Anyway we ended up having cup-of-soup and toast. DP made DS 13's and asked if he wanted toast, and DS said he wanted scones "we're not having scones" said DP. He got mine next and by this time I was so annoyed with him for how he'd been talking to the older 2. He says he treats them like his own, they're not, their father is my XH and they were 3 and 6 when I really started seeing DP, although he'd seen them grow up, we were friends before I even met XH. So DP gives me my lunch and he must've made DD 16's soup, then he grabs the leftover mince from the cannelloni and puts it in the microwave. DD 16 says "I'll just get my own toast then will I". DP - "Didn't I put some in the toaster for you". DD 16 - "no". DP - "I thought I had". Me - "I thought I had, sorry". DP - "I'm not apologising, I don't have to". So DD 16 won't move out of the kitchen because she's waiting for her toast, I've no idea why this is a problem for DP. But she moves and is really annoyed and backchatting him so he asks for her phone. She doesn't want to give it to him and he threatens to take it for a month, she puts it down her top and ends up storming up to her room. She came out just before and I asked if she was hungry and she said "NO". I'm so over these teenage arguements.

I told DP that from where I was sitting it's sounded like he's being a complete jerk toward the older 2. He's annoyed because DD 16 has been talking to him "like shit" for a couple of days now. He says I wouldn't put up with it, and it's true... but he's easily as bad. His laziness doesn't help. The counsellor said that he's the adult so DD 16 should listen to him, but my point was that he can't just say "do this, do that" while he sits on the computer, he needs to be active in the house too. Why should they respect him? I barely respect him. I don't even know why I am still here. I hate it! Sometimes it's like he's doing things to move forward, but at the same time it's the bare minimum... a half-arsed go if you will. Now she is helping him sync his computer and phone and he's talking like there's been nothing happen. Argh!!! Driving me insane, I'm about to just burst in to tears.

Mother's Day weekend

I had a really nice chat with my friend, and she appreciated the food. I came home and DD 16 was cooking tea - cannelloni, it was very yummy! DD 1 fell asleep at 9pm, I went to bed at 11pm. DD 1 was very restless, I put her in bed with me. She cried and soon DP came in and got her. I listened to her screaming for me and DP brought her back and she settled and fell asleep. I slept a little but soon she was crying and restless again. DP got her again and I asked the time, he said it was 1.20am... no wonder I was so tired and feeling angry. I listened to DD 1 crying for me again ("Mummy, I want mummy") and at one point she stopped. I'm sure I stayed awake, I remember hearing her cry again. When DP brought her back in to me he said it was 3am though.

I was up at 7am today with DD 4, DP had gone to the bathroom when she got up so I got out of bed. DP went back to bed. DD 1 came out soon afterward. I did some dishes, put a load of washing on, got the little ones breakfast and sat on DP's computer. DS 13 had been on the laptop from about 7.15-8.15am then DD 16 was on it. I wanted to have a big cleaning day. DP got up at 9.20am and put the kettle on. He told DD 16 to get off the computer. I hate when he does that, he used to say "let mum have that computer", but he didn't today. I still got the feeling he wanted me off his computer. Funny, he has "his" computer and the rest of us "have to" use the laptop. At the moment I'm on DD 16's, she got a scholarship through high school worth $1000 and bought this one. DP's was bought with my account, I still remember how he just wanted to have a look and there was a gamer's machine "too good to pass up". Anyway...

2 loads of washing on the line, another still in the machine... I can hear it beeping away, I must turn it off when I go to bed shortly. A heap of dishes done, but not enough to catch up :( I went to hang out one load and looked at the car in the backyard and remembered someone was coming to pick it up! Asked DP through the door what time the guy was coming, "10.30, what time is it now?" Umm, I'm outside, turn around and look at the clock! It was 10am so DS 13 and I tried to clear the way a bit. DP came outside and helped move some stuff, he went back inside, I finished hanging out the washing then decided to fit as much rubbish in the bin as I could... wasn't much room though, after I found a bag of rubbish that had been dumped, probably because there wasn't room in the bin the day it went out. Argh! Plus there was a box of soft drink cans in the bin that should have been squashed and put in the recycle bin, but no-one will own up to doing it!!! Another ARGH!!! The car got picked up on time and I headed inside ready for morning tea.

DD 1 was tired at 11am, about when I got coffee and cake for me and juice and cake for the little girls. I cuddled her and she went off to sleep. DD 16 got noodles for herself and DD 4, and DS 13 too I think. DP talked about cheese toasties but was on the computer so we didn't have that. I think I skipped lunch. The kids had tidied the living room too, while the car was getting picked up. They're so helpful. I didn't do much from lunch onward, started chopping up chicken pieces (that's how I missed lunch) I did 4 chicken breasts then DP came and finished the last 2. He cooked half up with sweet and sour sauce to take to mum's for tea. He put the other half on afterward so I guessed he wasn't coming with us. He usually doesn't. This time he isn't feeling well, the antibiotics are making him feel knocked around (as they usually do) and he's still got his cough. So I took the kids. Came home and he said he'd napped a bit, and his brother has a new baby boy born today. He got a message and a phone call. We got home before 8pm, I sat on the computer, I'm so tired. I put the kettle on and thought DP was getting DD 4 a milo, but I ended up getting it and DD 1's bottle. DP took the little girls to brush their teeth, a rare occurence! I realised it was 8.45pm and Frost started at 8.30pm so I watched that. Now I've been on Facebook and thought I need to keep my 'diary'. DP said he and his 'team' 'guild' whatever have made it into the qualifier for the WoW competition. Hope he gets something out of it, better than playing the damn game all the time for "nothing".

Argh!

Had craft Tuesday morning. Took DD 4 to kinder then went to mum's with DD 1 until craft. Went back at lunch time and had lunch with mum, then was going to go home but DD 1 was having fun playing the piano so I stayed until I picked DD 4 up, headed to DS 13's school to pick him up because it looked like it was going to rain, then headed to Nanna's. We stayed until about 5pm then went home because I wasn't sure what we were doing for tea. DP is still not well. I don't really remember what we did... or if DP cooked. Argh.

Just remembered Tuesday morning I left feeling soooo angry that I have to do everything myself. I got the little ones breakfast, got them dressed, made DD 4 her lunch, had to find shoes and socks, change the carseat because I put it in the little car on Monday's to drive to sport. I had to move the little car out the front so I could get the big car out. DP had got out of bed late then sat on his computer while I made lunch and ran around. It was so damn frustrating!

Wednesday I was looking forward to a day at home, but DP had an appointment at 10.30am so I figured we could go and look at DD 16's debutante photos. I also finally paid the cat registration at the council - I didn't want to pay full price since I have a concession card, saved $25! Had to wait for DP, he took a while but was happy with how it went. Now if anything comes up in terms of work that would suit him with his... "problem" (agoraphobia) he may get a call. Went to look at DD 16's photos at about midday so the little girls were both quite hungry, we really just went to find out if there were any packages and what the prices were. Basically they were $15 a photo or we could pay $200 odd for all the photos, not sure how many there were but the guy said it worked out about $6 a photo. DP started talking to him about having a website and the photographer said he was working on one but got stuck with imbedding a slideshow into his site - so DP offered him a trade, he will do the guys site and have it up ASAP and we got the photos! We didn't want to take them before the work was done, DP has a meeting with him next Monday. It's Friday today and DP got a call - the photographer has recommended DP to another business! OMG!

Anyway I felt we'd accomplished a lot on Wednesday, even if I still had lots of housework to catch up on. A friend came over after lunch and I spent the afternoon chatting, so didn't even have that time for housework. Luckily she's not included in my CHAOS list ;) She is one of few who can see my messy house. DS 13 and DD 16 both bussed it home, as they'd bussed it to school too.

Thursday was kinder for DD 4 and shopping day for me. I got home at 1.15pm and DP had gone to bed. He said he was coughing up blood. I picked up his 'script, I'd said he should do it when we were in town the day before but we both forgot - not surprising with 2 hungry girls. I left at 2.15pm to get DD 4 and DS 13 and then went to mum's until DS's sport started at 4.30pm. The older 2 had youth group at 6pm then I went home. DP had not long been up, he filled the sink with water but that was about it. He put tea in the oven and played WoW until it was ready to serve. I picked the older 2 up at 9.30pm, was home about 9.45pm. DP has said if they don't finish on time they won't be allowed to go to youth group. I don't think we are the only parents with a problem with it running so much over time.

Today I took DS 13 to school then went to see some friends before playgroup. Mum wasn't home so I came home for lunch. I made DP and I toasted sandwiches and the little girls just wanted saladas and cheese. I wanted to cook for a friend that had an op a week ago but there were so many dishes! I did 2 lots, washed and dried, then was getting angry because DD 1 kept holding my legs, I kicked the bin and hit my hand against the stove - it hurt :( DP took her and she was asleep in seconds. I put her in to bed and DP cleared off the stove and cooked - then I found I couldn't catch up with my friend today, will have to go tomorrow... at least we have tea I suppose. I've been on the computer for the afternoon now, what a waste. I did hang out some washing inside - it's very grey and wet outside. The older 2 will catch buses home so should be here soon. I'd better get off here and get DD 1 up before she sleeps so long she won't go to bed tonight, then I just got a message so will be off to that friend's house after all. Will have to cook our own tea now LOL

So busy

DP got up at 10am yesterday, headed to the bathroom where he took 30 minutes to get out! I did most of the dishes, left a few because I hate drying plastic ware LOL I dressed the little girls, didn't give them a bath though. I made choc-chip bikkies before lunch, DP headed to the bathroom around 11.30am. I got some lunch for myself and the girls, rice crackers and saladas. I was cuddling DD 1 when I realised DP had an appointment. I yelled through the bathroom door, not sure if he had showered. He got out and rang the dr, we had to leave straight away. I stayed in the car with the girls, DD 1 fell asleep. When DP got out we headed out to do the grocery shopping. By the time we got home I put the cold stuff away and had to get DS 13. DP unloaded the car then sat down with a drink. I got petrol in the car so when I got home I had time to get DD 4 ready for sport, pack DD 16 some food and then go. I realised I had no water for DD 4 or DD 16 so after getting DD 16 I stopped at a supermarket to buy some. After DD 4's session finished I headed home. That was about 5.30pm. DP hadn't put on tea so he did that around 6pm. He sat on the computer while we ate, then at 7.30pm I headed out to get DD 16. DD 1 fell asleep at 8.30pm, I cuddled her until 9pm then put her in to bed. I've been doing some beading to give the school DS used to go to some gifts for the Mother's Day stall. I went to bed at 10.30pm and DP did as well. He was in the middle of a raid - he showed me before he turned the computer off. Made a point of saying they were at the end, so I'm not sure what the rest of the group thought when he just left. Oh well.

I've got to get off, DD 16 needs her computer. It's 7.45am, I got up at 7 and showered. Now DD 1 and DD 4 are both up and need brekky. Got to get them ready to go in less than an hour as well!

The weekend's over

I ended up hanging out about 3 loads of washing, but then left them on the line overnight so this morning DS 13 had to get his clothes and put them in front of the heater. Yes, I'd washed ALL of his uniforms. At 2pm yesterday I had to pick up DD 16 and DS 13 and took them to visit mum. DD 1 fell asleep at 1.30pm so I left her at home. DP sent a message asking about tea, he usually does... and said to send the kids for fish and chips because it's just down the street from mum's. I ended up doing that and we headed home at 5.15pm. DP had let DD 1 sleep until 4.45pm when I said she wouldn't sleep at night. Sure enough at 10.30pm I was still struggling with her. DP took her and she fell asleep (while he played WoW) He actually did quite a few dishes yesterday afternoon, although there is a pile of plastic stuff there this morning. I'll get on to it as soon as I'm done here. I just put on a load of washing, DP is still in bed.

Last night he was talking about needing $300-odd and asked how much I had in my "other" account. That's supposedly my savings account, but we're always dipping in to it, I have a little over $200. So he says he's selling his WoW account for $500 and asked if I thought that sounded right - like I'd have any idea! He has a few level 80 characters. I thought he was going to be entering some tournament that has prize money, he said he still was. But he needs this money now. He showed me what looks like an engagement ring and said he'd bought it. I don't know that I condone buying jewellery online, not for that kind of money. He said he didn't include GST and he had some changes he wanted made. Now I'm concerned that he's wanting to ask me to marry him. I can't, until some changes are made around here. I'll have to tell him that. This just isn't where I want to be, things aren't the way I want them to be. I guess we shall see how things go this next week. He's seeing his dr today and has to get some certificate to take to a Job Assessment on Wednesday. Something to do with help for people "like him". Last week he was told to go onto a disability payment... he's been told that before. To me it's like giving up. The other suggestion was that we somehow tell Centrelink that he is responsible for the care of one of our little girls and I have care for the other so neither of us have to put in fortnightly forms. I don't know how that would work, but again it defeats everything. I want DP to go out and get a job and function like a normal person. Not enable him to sit at home playing WoW all the time! And I haven't heard about the job I applied for, I'm concerned my application didn't go through because I used the hotmail account and it probably went straight to their junk folder. Oh well...

It's 9am, I've put on washing, now to get in to the kitchen. Better get the girls dressed too, perhaps give them a bath. Might get in to the kitchen just as DP gets up and is in there getting breakfast - several coffees and toast... as he sits on the computer.

Try again

I started posting yesterday and the damn computer froze up and I lost the lot - grrrr!!! So I have to start over... lets see... We'll go back to Wednesday.

We expected the minister so I got up and started cleaning up. DS 13 and DD 16 both caught buses to school (and home). DS 13 said that meant I didn't have to go out, which was nice. So DP was napping in his chair when I got up, not sure if that was 7am or 7.30am now. I did fit in my shower there somewhere before the kids left for the bus. I put washing on and tidied the kitchen a bit, and at 9.30am I said to DP "the minister is coming in an hour, remember". He headed to the bathroom and managed to be out in 40 minutes, including having a shower - that's a record for him. I wanted to cook but we expected the minister at 10.30am so that's about when I sat down at the computer. I had washing to hang out and I remember thinking at 11am "maybe I have the wrong day". I thought back and no, he rang last week before Sunday, because he said Carolynn was leading. And he said "next week" which was surely 'this week' now, not in another week. I definately said I would be out Thursday so Wednesday was better... I bet he wrote it down wrong.

When he first came to the church as minister he asked everyone to write their names on a calendar for him to visit. DD 16 wrote Nanna's name and it was a day we'd be there, that way we didn't need him to visit here (CHAOS) We were all prepared for him to arrive, and he didn't. The following week there was a knock at the door - he'd written down the wrong Tuesday!

Sure enough, DP rang him around 11.30am-12pm and he'd had us down for Thursday! So we've re-booked him for next Wednesday... and now DP has an appointment, but more about that later (if I get time, this blogging is so damn time consuming!!!) So by the time we had lunch, got Daria to sleep, sat down for a bit... I lost the rest of Wednesday! I'm the worst in the afternoons. I can't remember if DP made tea... he did sit on WoW for most of the day - as usual.

Thursday was the day I went out with a friend. Had a great morning actually, found some yoghurts that will be great for school - usually they are $2-3 for one, I got 2 boxes of 12 for $2.52 each. Use-by the 15th, that's 2 weeks away... and they freeze anyway. DP sent a message that he was feeling pretty crap, he's getting a chest infection, so he went to bed. I got home at 12.30pm and left to get DD 4 at 2.15pm and he was still in bed. In that time I did a few dishes, DP had obviously not done anything while he was up. He'd booked in to the dr for Monday anyway. Thursday is another busy day - get the kids, visit mum, DS 13 has sport then he and DD 16 went to youth group. I headed home at 6.30pm and instead of cooking tea (I'd bought chicken) DP heated up leftovers to have with noodles.

Friday I took both DD 13 and DD 16 and dropped them at DS's school. DD 16 had a job for the morning nearby. Headed to have coffee with a friend before playgroup at 10am. The little girls love playgroup! They had so much fun. Then I went to mum's and we had lunch with her. I took them home, hoping that DD 1 would have a nap, at about 1.30pm. I had to cuddle her, but she fell asleep pretty quickly. I can't remember what I did... I think I got on the computer. I hadn't been on it at all on Thursday! Not even once!! I picked DS 13 up after school and went to the supermarket to get some things for tea. DP cooked - sweet and sour chicken. Used up the fresh capsicum and celery too, though he didn't put the rubbish in the bin. I had to do that when I got up yesterday morning.

Saturday I got up and wasted the morning on the computer. I did put on some washing, and hung out one load. I treated DD 1 and DD 4 with headlice combing solution. Nothing in DD 1's hair but eggs in DD 4's. I'd found about a dozen live lice the night before though so must've done a good job getting rid of them. I washed DD 4's hair in the sink and DD 1's in the bath. At about 11.30am I took DD 1 and DD 16 to Spotlight, we were there an hour! I love Spotlight. Picked up a few free instruction sheets. Got home and DP was in the bathroom. He ended up getting out and going in again. We headed out to go shopping at about 2.30pm I think (not sure, it may have been closer to 3pm) Anyway we came home 4.30ish and DP put tea in. We ate around 6pm. For 2 days DP has said he'd make dessert, I bought a packet self saucing pudding on Thursday, but he's usually caught up in WoW. Last night was no exception so I made it. It went in a bit before 6.30pm, I expected it to be done at 7pm, but it took a bit longer. The kids were watching movies so it was 9pm before they went to bed. DD 1 fought sleep, as usual, until 10.30pm, then I went to bed too. I got some time on the computer around the time the kids headed to bed though, needed to play some of the Facebook games LOL

Now I've wasted another 40 mins or so typing this up, I suppose if I did it every day it would be less time, rather like the housework LOL Which is what I must do between now and 2pm when I pick up DS 13 from his mate's and DD 16 from church - they both bussed it today.