Worst Mother's Day ever :(

It started off nice enough. DP had told me to stay in bed so he could make pancakes, I was awake for a while then when DS 13 walked past (he'd just got up I think) I asked him to grab my sudoku book for me. I heard DP say "Don't!" and DS told him I'd asked him to get something. DP asked if he'd woken me up and I yelled "NO!" down the hallway. I heard DD 16 yelling the recipe for pancakes at DP. Apparently he'd text messaged her in her room, she told him to google it and he said he had. Yeah, like he told me he'd rung the minister last Tuesday then had to ask me what the phone number was on Wednesday because he couldn't find it online. So how did he call the day before? Surely if you can do something once you can do it again the next day.

Anyway, I got pancakes and maple syrup, they were really nice. DD 1 and DD 4 stole some of mine then DD 4 went out to get her own and DD 16 came up to eat hers with me. I got up and it was about 9am. I went and had a shower then spent the morning sitting in front of the tv, mostly with DD 1 and DD 4 climbing up and down on me. DP sat in front of his computer the whole time. He said he thought he'd make scones and soup for lunch. I asked DD 16 if she'd come and watch 'The Hills' with me, halfway through it DP asked her to get the little girls dressed. I admit she didn't say it nicely, but she said she was watching something and she'd do it afterward. DP yelled at her and told her to get DD 4 some clothes and then go to her room. I told him I'd said she could watch tv with me. I called her out to watch the second ep. Then at 12.30pm I started folding and putting away clothes. DP asked DD 16 to make the scones and she was rude back to him. He was speaking similarly to her though, I don't think he realises. I tidied stuff off the couch and DS found a pen, he mindlessly clicked it, I can't say I noticed. DP however yells "Put that pen in the bin" and started saying he'd been telling DS 13 not to click it all morning - "he just picked it up then" I said. "He's been clicking a pen all morning, he knows he shouldn't do it" says DP. Grrr!!! Anyway we ended up having cup-of-soup and toast. DP made DS 13's and asked if he wanted toast, and DS said he wanted scones "we're not having scones" said DP. He got mine next and by this time I was so annoyed with him for how he'd been talking to the older 2. He says he treats them like his own, they're not, their father is my XH and they were 3 and 6 when I really started seeing DP, although he'd seen them grow up, we were friends before I even met XH. So DP gives me my lunch and he must've made DD 16's soup, then he grabs the leftover mince from the cannelloni and puts it in the microwave. DD 16 says "I'll just get my own toast then will I". DP - "Didn't I put some in the toaster for you". DD 16 - "no". DP - "I thought I had". Me - "I thought I had, sorry". DP - "I'm not apologising, I don't have to". So DD 16 won't move out of the kitchen because she's waiting for her toast, I've no idea why this is a problem for DP. But she moves and is really annoyed and backchatting him so he asks for her phone. She doesn't want to give it to him and he threatens to take it for a month, she puts it down her top and ends up storming up to her room. She came out just before and I asked if she was hungry and she said "NO". I'm so over these teenage arguements.

I told DP that from where I was sitting it's sounded like he's being a complete jerk toward the older 2. He's annoyed because DD 16 has been talking to him "like shit" for a couple of days now. He says I wouldn't put up with it, and it's true... but he's easily as bad. His laziness doesn't help. The counsellor said that he's the adult so DD 16 should listen to him, but my point was that he can't just say "do this, do that" while he sits on the computer, he needs to be active in the house too. Why should they respect him? I barely respect him. I don't even know why I am still here. I hate it! Sometimes it's like he's doing things to move forward, but at the same time it's the bare minimum... a half-arsed go if you will. Now she is helping him sync his computer and phone and he's talking like there's been nothing happen. Argh!!! Driving me insane, I'm about to just burst in to tears.