Raising teens

I ended up doing the dishes last night and DD 16 and DS 13 dried them for me. Unfortunately DD 1 was so full up with a cold/sleepy/grumpy that I couldn't finish them before she wanted cuddles. Then it was time for DS and I to make tea. DP slept until around 6.30pm. We'd all eaten by then and his was in the oven. Of course he didn't eat any vegetables... grrr.

Anyway he was up when I got up with DD 1 this morning. No idea what time he went to bed, I went at 10.30pm but he'd napped for 3.5 hours. Of course he was on WoW, I put the kettle on and he ended up getting me a milo and DD 1 a bottle before heading to the bathroom. DD 4 got up so I got her breakfast, DS and DD 16 both got up before DP got out as well. DD 16 needed to use the toilet and DD 4 needed to use the toilet but we only have one, which is why DP tends to use it later after everyone else has been. The rest of us are so much quicker. I was doing dishes when DP got out, he'd filled the sink to wash a bottle for DD 1 but that was all he did. He'd put some towels in the washing machine and started it, I added more because there it looked like there was room. I asked if there were many in and he said no but he'd changed the water level... at least that was something he remembered LOL Anyway there were tea towels and face washers to go in as well, so I did that. Then I had my shower and cleaned the bath to run for the little girls. Bathed them, dried them, dressed them. Then DP headed to the bathroom again at about 9.30am. I thought he was going for shower but he's just having that now.

About 20 mins ago DS 13 was playing a game with DD 1 - he had a bunch of near flat balloons and was bopping her on the head, so she grabbed another toy and was going to hit him so I stopped that game. I told DS that was a silly game and to not play it. Then I started to brush DD 1's hair and got hit in the eye with something. I said "ouch" and was hit again so I grabbed it. DD 4 was using a tape measure to hit DS who had started the balloon hitting game with her. I completely lost it and yelled at both of them. I said it was a silly game and that I was hit in the eye twice. I took the tape measure and popped the balloons and put them in the bin, pointing out I'd just told DS not to play with them. I sent DS to his room and told DD 4 to sit on her couch and not move. Then I finished brushing DD 1's hair. DP came out a few minutes later and asked what it was all about so I told him. He yelled up to DS to bring out his phone and his ipod and he took them off him. Sitting here thinking I think he's done the wrong thing and now I have to talk to DP about that. He had no right to come in to the situation and take away DS's things when I had already dealt with it. He gets annoyed when I step in, and that's exactly what he's done. It's all about appropriateness of the punishment, I think taking DS's things is going too far. Damn DP. He's going to get shitty with me when I point this out. He's about to get out of the bathroom, it's almost 10.30am and we have shopping to do today.