Sunday I got up around 8am, a sleep-in LOL I think I did some dishes, DD 16 had to lead the church service and when I left to drop her and DS 13 off DP was still in bed. That was 10am, I was pretty annoyed. Got home and he was up. I spent much of Sunday tidying up my craft table. I remember thinking I wasn't getting very far for the time I spent. I left at 12.30pm to go to mum's because that's where the older 2 went after church. We had lunch there and helped mum with some yard work. DP sent a message about tea, he ended up ordering pizza. I had to get money to a friend (party plan stuff I bought) and by the time I got home it was 6.30pm. DP had done some dishes, I was really surprised. Still left the wok, frypan, saucepan... baking trays. They are all still there now too.
Monday I planned to spend time doing housework. It was a public holiday. Instead DP put on a movie. I fixed DD 4's pj's and did some tidying, but mostly watched the movie. It finished at lunch time. I'd cuddled DD 1 to sleep. We had leftover pizza and then I made pancakes. I mostly finished my craft table. DP seemed to spend most of the day on the computer, he didn't really watch the movie with us, just watched it from the "office".
That reminds me... Sunday after I got home from dropping the kids at church I headed to the toilet and had the little girls come in to the bathroom. When I got out DD 1 was holding the shampoo bottle upside down and had made a puddle on the floor. I cleaned it up and had to strip her off as well. I cleaned up the puddle and when I went to dress her she'd found a texta and drawn all over her belly, arms and legs. Argh! I told DP what had happened and he didn't even look up from WoW, he was intently watching the screen and clicking his mouse. I ran a bath and washed both the girls then got them dressed. Fun fun LOL
Today was Tuesday, another day of craft. DP got up just before we left. I managed to make DD 4 lunch and left it behind, I picked her up and was told she had been given cruskits by her teacher. I felt soooo bad!!! At least she had little lunch I suppose. And I had a roll and another bikkie in the car so she ate before we picked DS 13 up. Anyway, I was going to go home but because DD 1 had a nap at mum's at lunch time I spent the afternoon there. DP did some dishes again today. We also went to visit nanna so I was out from 8.45am until 5.30pm. Tomorrow is a day at home - I need more of those.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Shopping
We left to go shopping at 11.15am. On the way DP made a comment about buying small buckles for his bandanas instead of the laces he uses. He has alopecia (I think that's spelled wrongly, oh well) For as long as I've known him (since he was 16, that's 19 years now) he's worn a bandana and cap. I made him a few bandanas years ago but he seems to prefer to wear one until it wears out... I don't like that as it means they don't get washed, except (apparently) when he showers. Anyway I commented that I remember him talking about not wearing one any more. Years ago, 5 or 6, he said he would lose weight and take off his hat and bandana. Instead he put weight on. But I commented that he has a warped sense of time. He'll say he's going "for a quick pee" and he'll be 5 mins... not quick IMO... once I said I'd go first because I'd be 60 seconds... and he timed me LOL Anyway, then there's the times he's said he'd get his license... he actually said "in 3 months" but that was about 5 years ago, and I've heard it several times since. He got angry with me and said I shouldn't say those things in front of the kids... and I suppose he's right. But he will ignore me anyway. He hates having these things pointed out to him regardless.
Anyway we shopped, got home around 4pm. We had lunch out - chips and gravy as usual. I've had mild abdominal pain since I got home so I wonder if it's been set off by the fatty food. Will keep tabs on it anyway. DD 16 made pizza for tea - yum. Got the little ones ready for bed, didn't brush teeth this evening, oops. Cuddled DD 1 for a little then put her into the cot and watched Frost. DP headed to bed less than an hour ago, I was watching TV. Love Midsommer Murders too LOL
Anyway we shopped, got home around 4pm. We had lunch out - chips and gravy as usual. I've had mild abdominal pain since I got home so I wonder if it's been set off by the fatty food. Will keep tabs on it anyway. DD 16 made pizza for tea - yum. Got the little ones ready for bed, didn't brush teeth this evening, oops. Cuddled DD 1 for a little then put her into the cot and watched Frost. DP headed to bed less than an hour ago, I was watching TV. Love Midsommer Murders too LOL
Waiting, waiting...
I went to bed at midnight last night, FarmVille was soooo laggy. DP had 2 pies on the bench and I heard him heat them up. I woke up at 6am with a headache and DP was snoring... I looked for the nurofen he bought at the supermarket, couldn't find it, so woke him up and asked where it was. I also told him he was snoring. He said it was on the bench, after clearing the rubbish off I found it in the cupboard. I took one and went back to bed, when I got up at 8am he was snoring in his chair. I got the little girls some breakfast and found the milk was off. Wasted the last of the milo, so they had to have banana flavoured milk. The toaster doesn't work so I made toast in the griller. When DD 16 got up I went for a shower, I was out by 9am. I'd put a load of washing on, DP must have put on a load of towels yesterday, great - but he could have hung out the ones that he took out. He has a habit of only putting towels in to wash, and often he doesn't even put in a full load, this time he could also have found the face washers and put them in too. But I guess at least the towels were washed, and it was set on medium although it was only a low load - about 4 towels in total (I'll count them later)
It's raining so I hung the first lot of towels on the airer inside, there's not room for anything else. If it cools down and the heater goes on it won't take too long to dry stuff off. I've just realised DP went to the bathroom 1/2 an hour ago and his fan is still on in the office - grrrr! It's bad enough the electricity bill is over $2000 a year! He has the fan on continuously, he even takes it to bed, unless, like last night, it's chilly and he has the window open! DS 13 shut it this morning because it was raining.
DP got out of his chair at 9.30am, as I was running the bath for the little ones. He had a can of Solo and a piece of fruit cake for breakfast! I told him he needs to go for a good walk today, especially after eating pies at midnight! I wish he'd lose weight, 185kg is a bit out of hand and I hate it! So I bathed the girls, got them dressed, did some dishes. DP headed to the bathroom at 10.15am and I'm on Facebook and typing this up, which is really time consuming! But it's my record of where we're going. I'm over waiting for life to go somewhere when DP is obviously happy where he is - letting life go by while he sits in front of the computer. I'm not waiting much longer for him to get a clue - I keep telling him he needs to do something about his life and that he should get help because he can't do it himself. He just gets annoyed with me and agrees with me, then does nothing! I'm sick of it.
It's raining so I hung the first lot of towels on the airer inside, there's not room for anything else. If it cools down and the heater goes on it won't take too long to dry stuff off. I've just realised DP went to the bathroom 1/2 an hour ago and his fan is still on in the office - grrrr! It's bad enough the electricity bill is over $2000 a year! He has the fan on continuously, he even takes it to bed, unless, like last night, it's chilly and he has the window open! DS 13 shut it this morning because it was raining.
DP got out of his chair at 9.30am, as I was running the bath for the little ones. He had a can of Solo and a piece of fruit cake for breakfast! I told him he needs to go for a good walk today, especially after eating pies at midnight! I wish he'd lose weight, 185kg is a bit out of hand and I hate it! So I bathed the girls, got them dressed, did some dishes. DP headed to the bathroom at 10.15am and I'm on Facebook and typing this up, which is really time consuming! But it's my record of where we're going. I'm over waiting for life to go somewhere when DP is obviously happy where he is - letting life go by while he sits in front of the computer. I'm not waiting much longer for him to get a clue - I keep telling him he needs to do something about his life and that he should get help because he can't do it himself. He just gets annoyed with me and agrees with me, then does nothing! I'm sick of it.
Friday, April 23, 2010
I hate being sick!
DD 1 actually woke up and I cuddled her until 11pm. I was feeling really off all afternoon, and ended up waking up at 3am feeling like I was going to vomit. I didn't, but I woke up with stabbing-like pains in my abdomen. I got up and showered, fully intending to continue my day normally, but it wasn't going to happen. DP rang a taxi to get DD 16 to the train station and DS caught a bus to school. I went back to bed. DD 1 thought I'd left and I heard her screaming hysterically at DP, he ended up bringing her to me so she knew I was there, and she snuggled in for a cuddle for a bit before going back out. DP came and said he needed to head to the bathroom, I said I'd stay in bed and keep an ear out for the girls. He was in there for close to an hour as usual. I got up briefly and was on the computer around 11-11.30am, but I couldn't stay up. I took some bi carb in water to try to help my stomach, the pain was pretty intense when it happened. DD 1 fell asleep and DP bought her in, when she woke up she went out. It was about 3pm when I got up again, DS 13 messaged me to make sure he was catching a bus home. DP had done some dishes when I got up, about half. He doesn't like washing the fry pan I reckon, because he always leaves it. From when I got up he was playing WoW though.
I said I might be able to pick DD 16 up at 5pm and DP said if I could do that then we needed to go shopping as well. There was no way I felt I could do all that driving so I messaged DD 16 to catch a bus home from the station. She bought me a Krispy Kreme donut, I have the best teenage daughter ever <3 Anyway, DP still wanted to get to the supermarket - we've been eating really badly with few vegies, I think that contributed to me feeling sick. We loaded all the kids in to the car and DP and DD 16 went in while the rest of us stayed in the car. Yet another one of those "if only DP had his bloody license" moments (like this morning, instead of calling a taxi he could've driven... and he could've taken the little girls to playgroup - DD 4 burst in to tears when I told her she missed it!)
So I had a salad for tea, the kids got nachos - so healthy right. DD 1 stole some of my lettuce and cherry tomatoes, DD 4 stole a tomato too... and they both raided the punnet for more, at least that's a start I suppose. DP has changed 1 nappy since I got up, I've changed at least 6, poor DD 1 has had runny nappies for a few days now. Plus I had to get the little ones ready for bed, brush their teeth... DP has never done that. He'll say it's because they don't want to, but it's been my job for so long they're just not used to the idea of Daddy helping with anything! He doesn't bath them either. Anyway, DD 1 fell asleep around 9pm but DD 4 was still awake. I put DD 1 in to her cot and sat down to watch TV. DD 4 got up and DP told me she was still awake, I did see her get up. Why couldn't he get up and sit with her? He's been playing WoW since tea time - he did get tea ready, even cut up capsicum for me! But I went and sat with DD 4, got her some medicine for her cough, and she fell asleep at about 10pm. Now I need to harvest on FarmVille (Facebook game) and then I'm off to bed. I'd be willing to bet that DP will be sick tomorrow, if I'm feeling up to it we were planning to go shopping. He bought a box of Solo, I bought PepsiMax last Sunday, it got opened Monday. So from Tuesday to today it's almost empty, that was a 24 box. Besides that and toilet paper he got tea. We need fresh fruit and vegies, and maybe a meal plan LOL
I said I might be able to pick DD 16 up at 5pm and DP said if I could do that then we needed to go shopping as well. There was no way I felt I could do all that driving so I messaged DD 16 to catch a bus home from the station. She bought me a Krispy Kreme donut, I have the best teenage daughter ever <3 Anyway, DP still wanted to get to the supermarket - we've been eating really badly with few vegies, I think that contributed to me feeling sick. We loaded all the kids in to the car and DP and DD 16 went in while the rest of us stayed in the car. Yet another one of those "if only DP had his bloody license" moments (like this morning, instead of calling a taxi he could've driven... and he could've taken the little girls to playgroup - DD 4 burst in to tears when I told her she missed it!)
So I had a salad for tea, the kids got nachos - so healthy right. DD 1 stole some of my lettuce and cherry tomatoes, DD 4 stole a tomato too... and they both raided the punnet for more, at least that's a start I suppose. DP has changed 1 nappy since I got up, I've changed at least 6, poor DD 1 has had runny nappies for a few days now. Plus I had to get the little ones ready for bed, brush their teeth... DP has never done that. He'll say it's because they don't want to, but it's been my job for so long they're just not used to the idea of Daddy helping with anything! He doesn't bath them either. Anyway, DD 1 fell asleep around 9pm but DD 4 was still awake. I put DD 1 in to her cot and sat down to watch TV. DD 4 got up and DP told me she was still awake, I did see her get up. Why couldn't he get up and sit with her? He's been playing WoW since tea time - he did get tea ready, even cut up capsicum for me! But I went and sat with DD 4, got her some medicine for her cough, and she fell asleep at about 10pm. Now I need to harvest on FarmVille (Facebook game) and then I'm off to bed. I'd be willing to bet that DP will be sick tomorrow, if I'm feeling up to it we were planning to go shopping. He bought a box of Solo, I bought PepsiMax last Sunday, it got opened Monday. So from Tuesday to today it's almost empty, that was a 24 box. Besides that and toilet paper he got tea. We need fresh fruit and vegies, and maybe a meal plan LOL
Thursday, April 22, 2010
A Job Application
Wednesday I got up, showered, did some dishes. DS 13 and DD 16 both caught buses to school so I got to stay home and do housework. At 9am I realised a friend had invited me for coffee at 9.30am and since I felt I accomplished quite a bit I decided to go. DD 4 didn't want to come, DP had got up and sat in his chair and fallen asleep again, but got up at about 9am and sat on his computer. I left DD 4 and took DD 1 with me, planning to only stay a little while, though I said I might head to mum's to get help with a job application. I've never had a job, I left uni after DD 16 was born because XH wanted me to be a full time mother. I became a single mum when DS 13 was 20 months and dedicated all my time to my kids.
Anyway, I told DP one of us needs to work and it doesn't look like it will be him. I ended up heading to mum's, she was having coffee and my sister was on the computer so I had to wait. It took a couple of hours to finish a cover letter and a page on the selection criteria for good measure. I ended up staying for the day until I had to pick up DS 13 at 3pm. I think DP was annoyed. He said he tried to convince DD 4 to catch a bus with him but she wouldn't. I said we could still go out, he was playing WoW when I got home. At 3.45pm I said if he wanted to go out when DD 16 got home he should get ready. She got home a bit after 4pm, DP got out of the bathroom soon after, but it was 4.30pm when we left. We went to a local shopping centre and came home at 6pm with KFC for tea. DP played WoW until I went to bed at 11pm. I spent some time on the computer and some time watching TV.
This morning I was up at 7am as usual. I got to have my shower before the little ones got up for breakfast. DP got up after I'd given them milo's - DD 1's first milo instead of a bottle. She loved it. I put it in a little expresso cup. I had a milo too then got clothes for the girls, and lunch. I was on kinder duty this morning so I took DS 13 to school and DD 1 came with me to pre-school. It was fun :) I got home just before midday and DD 1 had fallen asleep in the car so I put her in the cot. DP was playing WoW and hadn't done any dishes. I heated up some leftover KFC for lunch. DP wanted to go out but DD 1 slept until almost 2pm and I had to pick up DD 4 at 2.30pm. DS 13 had sport and he and DD 16 went to a fun sports night at church from 6-9.30pm. I had to pick them up this evening. DP cooked tea while I watched TV, he'd done some dishes after I went to get DD 4 and was at the sink when I got home at about 5pm. He went to lie down with DD 4 at 8.30pm and fell asleep. DD 1 fell asleep before 9pm, I put her in to the cot and DD 4 was still awake. I had to tell DP I had to go get the older kids, but he didn't get up. They're all asleep now, it's 10.20pm. I'll have to go to bed myself soon, so tired!
Anyway, I told DP one of us needs to work and it doesn't look like it will be him. I ended up heading to mum's, she was having coffee and my sister was on the computer so I had to wait. It took a couple of hours to finish a cover letter and a page on the selection criteria for good measure. I ended up staying for the day until I had to pick up DS 13 at 3pm. I think DP was annoyed. He said he tried to convince DD 4 to catch a bus with him but she wouldn't. I said we could still go out, he was playing WoW when I got home. At 3.45pm I said if he wanted to go out when DD 16 got home he should get ready. She got home a bit after 4pm, DP got out of the bathroom soon after, but it was 4.30pm when we left. We went to a local shopping centre and came home at 6pm with KFC for tea. DP played WoW until I went to bed at 11pm. I spent some time on the computer and some time watching TV.
This morning I was up at 7am as usual. I got to have my shower before the little ones got up for breakfast. DP got up after I'd given them milo's - DD 1's first milo instead of a bottle. She loved it. I put it in a little expresso cup. I had a milo too then got clothes for the girls, and lunch. I was on kinder duty this morning so I took DS 13 to school and DD 1 came with me to pre-school. It was fun :) I got home just before midday and DD 1 had fallen asleep in the car so I put her in the cot. DP was playing WoW and hadn't done any dishes. I heated up some leftover KFC for lunch. DP wanted to go out but DD 1 slept until almost 2pm and I had to pick up DD 4 at 2.30pm. DS 13 had sport and he and DD 16 went to a fun sports night at church from 6-9.30pm. I had to pick them up this evening. DP cooked tea while I watched TV, he'd done some dishes after I went to get DD 4 and was at the sink when I got home at about 5pm. He went to lie down with DD 4 at 8.30pm and fell asleep. DD 1 fell asleep before 9pm, I put her in to the cot and DD 4 was still awake. I had to tell DP I had to go get the older kids, but he didn't get up. They're all asleep now, it's 10.20pm. I'll have to go to bed myself soon, so tired!
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
I love craft :)
After lunch on Monday we went to Target. DP bought new clothes, and we found some cheap Easter stuff. DD 4 and DD 16 had their sport, so it was another long day. I headed to bed at 10.30pm, an earlier night than usual. DP cooked tea, mini chicken strudels from Lenards, nice and easy LOL He went to grab a Pepsi at around 9.30pm and I told him off. He needs to stop eating and drinking so late, or just drink water, he's put on a lot of weight in the last few years. He wasn't happy but didn't have one, I expected to wake up and find he'd had one after I went to bed, but he hadn't. He may have made up for it today though.
Tuesday is craft day, so I got up at 7am, had a shower and got on the computer - I wasn't on for the rest of yesterday! DD 4 was up, DD 1 got up around 7.30am. DS 13 wanted the last 2 crumpets, but I said I'd have them so he put them in the toaster. I had to get off the computer and started to get the little girls breakfast, but the kettle was cold. I put it on, made the girls breakfast, then had to re-heat my crumpets. DD 4 threw a tantrum because she didn't have the spoon she wanted, she waved it around and got weetbix on the table and floor so I sent her to her room. I explained that she had to sometimes be happy with what she was given and said she could come out when she was happy. DP got up and went to cheer her up, she came out with him and had breakfast. I ate and then had to get the little ones dressed and get DD 4 lunch to take to pre-school. DD 1 kept hanging on to me, she followed me to the toilet LOL She was really grumpy and DP asked if I wanted to leave her at home, but I didn't. I took DS 13 to school, DD 4 to pre-school, and then DD 1 to visit my sister. We went to pick up a friend and went to craft at 10am. DD 1 fell asleep at about 11am, that may be why she was grumpy. She woke up when I took my friend home at midday. I headed home to tidy up, I had a woman come about a school preparation course for DD 4. When she left it was time to get DD 4, then DS 13. DD 16 got herself to school and home. DP had rung around about getting a replacement mirror for the car, so we left the older 2 to pick it up. He even took the old one off and when we came home he's put the other on. Besides that he's been playing WoW as long as I have been home. We stopped at the supermarket and he bought chicken and rolls for tea and made that up for us.
Tuesday is craft day, so I got up at 7am, had a shower and got on the computer - I wasn't on for the rest of yesterday! DD 4 was up, DD 1 got up around 7.30am. DS 13 wanted the last 2 crumpets, but I said I'd have them so he put them in the toaster. I had to get off the computer and started to get the little girls breakfast, but the kettle was cold. I put it on, made the girls breakfast, then had to re-heat my crumpets. DD 4 threw a tantrum because she didn't have the spoon she wanted, she waved it around and got weetbix on the table and floor so I sent her to her room. I explained that she had to sometimes be happy with what she was given and said she could come out when she was happy. DP got up and went to cheer her up, she came out with him and had breakfast. I ate and then had to get the little ones dressed and get DD 4 lunch to take to pre-school. DD 1 kept hanging on to me, she followed me to the toilet LOL She was really grumpy and DP asked if I wanted to leave her at home, but I didn't. I took DS 13 to school, DD 4 to pre-school, and then DD 1 to visit my sister. We went to pick up a friend and went to craft at 10am. DD 1 fell asleep at about 11am, that may be why she was grumpy. She woke up when I took my friend home at midday. I headed home to tidy up, I had a woman come about a school preparation course for DD 4. When she left it was time to get DD 4, then DS 13. DD 16 got herself to school and home. DP had rung around about getting a replacement mirror for the car, so we left the older 2 to pick it up. He even took the old one off and when we came home he's put the other on. Besides that he's been playing WoW as long as I have been home. We stopped at the supermarket and he bought chicken and rolls for tea and made that up for us.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Monday
DP got up this morning, as he sometimes does, when DD 4 woke up. I got up about 30 mins later and had a shower and DP was sitting in his chair when I got out. I asked if he was actually watching Sunrise, usually the kids watch cartoons, but he nodded and grunted yes. He'd given DD 4 a milo and weetbix. I did some dishes and realised he was snoring away. When DD 1 got up I got her breakfast and had some myself. I got a message asking if I'd meet a friend at Safeway at 9.30am and decided I could as DP was obviously not going to be ready. I knew I'd be home pretty early and we could still go out if we wanted. The older 2 caught buses to school and I had over an hour to fill in. I got washing hung out, another load on, dressed the little ones and did their hair, did some more dishes. At 11am my friend had to go so I tried to call DP to see if he wanted me to pick him up. I couldn't get him on his mobile or the landline so I went to pick up a layby before I came home. DP is in the bathroom. The little ones are getting hungry so I will find some lunch.
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Thursday to Sunday
I should do this like a diary and write every day instead of trying to remember later, oh well. Thursday I went shopping with a friend for the day. I dropped DD 4 at pre-school and picked up this friend. We got home about 1.15pm. I pick DD 4 up at 2.30pm then went to mum's. DS has his sport at 4.30-6pm. DD 16 had youth group from 6.30-9.30pm so she stayed at mum's and walked from there. As I left to get DD 4 I hit the driver's side mirror and broke it. It's very stressful driving without it!
Thursday night there was a car set on fire in our street. We were woken around 1am and the fire truck left about 1.30am, so we couldn't sleep until well after that.
Friday is playgroup, then I had lunch with mum. I took the other car, without the broken mirror. It's too small to fit everyone in, so I only drive it if there are only 4 of us going. DP went to bed that afternoon, but I can't remember what time. The police came to interview him. We had tuna cannelloni for tea, DP was asleep from sometime that afternoon, 2-3ish? until after we'd all eaten dessert, 7pm? He was annoyed with me because I don't want to drive far with a broken mirror. He said something like "Well if we're not going anywhere then I'm going to have a nap".
Saturday DP wanted to catch a bus to go shopping while I went to mum's for lunch. He didn't get there. He had the police come to interview him about Thursday night again. We headed home at 4pm with a mate of DS's. DD 16 cooked tea.
Sunday DS said he wanted to go in to town on the bus with DS 13 and his mate. I even made sure it was ok with the kid's mum. At 10.15am I took the girls to church. I was about to text DP at midday when I got one from him saying they hadn't gone out and he'd sent the boys to the shop for chips. We came home and DP said he thought we'd be out, he said he thought I said we'd visit mum, but I didn't say anything like that at all. DD 16 told me DP had said it, but anyway. I said fine we'd go out and get chips too, so I took the girls and left. We had chips and gravy for lunch and then went grocery shopping. DP sent a text saying "Well have fun shopping. I,m going for a nap, the boys are playing the station". We got home about 2.30pm, so had been out around 2 hours, DP was still in bed. I sat on the computer for a bit then left to take DS's mate home at 3.15ish. I was about to head home when DP rang and said there was a commotion in the street and not to come home, so I went to mum's. He sent a text saying it was fine but I was about to have coffee and cake. I got home about 5pm. DD 16 was cooking tea, I had to take her and DS 13 to another youth group meeting at 6.30pm, then pick them up at 8.30pm. DP has been on the computer the entire time. It's 10.40pm and I am going to bed. DD 1 only dropped off 40 mins ago, I was cuddling her in front of the TV for about an hour. I got the little girls ready for bed at 7.30pm, brushed their teeth, read a book etc. DD 4 won't settle without DS 13 being home though.
Thursday night there was a car set on fire in our street. We were woken around 1am and the fire truck left about 1.30am, so we couldn't sleep until well after that.
Friday is playgroup, then I had lunch with mum. I took the other car, without the broken mirror. It's too small to fit everyone in, so I only drive it if there are only 4 of us going. DP went to bed that afternoon, but I can't remember what time. The police came to interview him. We had tuna cannelloni for tea, DP was asleep from sometime that afternoon, 2-3ish? until after we'd all eaten dessert, 7pm? He was annoyed with me because I don't want to drive far with a broken mirror. He said something like "Well if we're not going anywhere then I'm going to have a nap".
Saturday DP wanted to catch a bus to go shopping while I went to mum's for lunch. He didn't get there. He had the police come to interview him about Thursday night again. We headed home at 4pm with a mate of DS's. DD 16 cooked tea.
Sunday DS said he wanted to go in to town on the bus with DS 13 and his mate. I even made sure it was ok with the kid's mum. At 10.15am I took the girls to church. I was about to text DP at midday when I got one from him saying they hadn't gone out and he'd sent the boys to the shop for chips. We came home and DP said he thought we'd be out, he said he thought I said we'd visit mum, but I didn't say anything like that at all. DD 16 told me DP had said it, but anyway. I said fine we'd go out and get chips too, so I took the girls and left. We had chips and gravy for lunch and then went grocery shopping. DP sent a text saying "Well have fun shopping. I,m going for a nap, the boys are playing the station". We got home about 2.30pm, so had been out around 2 hours, DP was still in bed. I sat on the computer for a bit then left to take DS's mate home at 3.15ish. I was about to head home when DP rang and said there was a commotion in the street and not to come home, so I went to mum's. He sent a text saying it was fine but I was about to have coffee and cake. I got home about 5pm. DD 16 was cooking tea, I had to take her and DS 13 to another youth group meeting at 6.30pm, then pick them up at 8.30pm. DP has been on the computer the entire time. It's 10.40pm and I am going to bed. DD 1 only dropped off 40 mins ago, I was cuddling her in front of the TV for about an hour. I got the little girls ready for bed at 7.30pm, brushed their teeth, read a book etc. DD 4 won't settle without DS 13 being home though.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
A Day At Home
So DP slept in until 10am. By then I'd given the little ones breakfast, done a stack of dishes, put on 3 loads of washing and taken DS 13 to school. I even washed DP's shoes with a cushion DD 4 had puked on last week. He hasn't mentioned them yet and it's 2.30pm, he's gone to the bathroom so I'm on his computer.
When he got up I said there was something to pick up at the post office in his name. It would be something I ordered on Ebay but I use his account. He said he would stay home with the girls so I could go and pick it up, and I said I wasn't sure I could because it was in his name. I think I've done it before to be honest, but I wanted him to get out of the house. Instead he rang the post office and said "I believe there's a parcel I need to pick up"... anyway, once it was found he asked if he could have someone else pick it up - bastard. That's all I could think as I walked there, not because I had to but I thought it would be nice to go with the girls. When I got home he was thinking about lunch, it was only 11am. DD 4 had been asking if it was lunch time since 9.30am though, I'd given them bananas and water. DD 4 only drinks water at pre-school apparently, so I'd even made cordial before DP got up - water, sugar, citric acid and strawberry essence. Apparently it tastes like "Scooby Doo drinks" that we buy.
DP made lunch for himself and the girls at 11.40am, I ate at 12pm because I had to defrost spring rolls - they had cheese on toast. I cuddled DD 1 until she fell asleep at 1.15pm then I've been cooking cupcakes again. The others didn't last long - never do in this house LOL Soon I'll go and pick up DS 13, though I hope DD 16 gets home before I go because DD 1 is sound asleep still and with DP in the bathroom I don't want her to wake up and think she's alone. I can't leave DD 4 watching TV either, I'm not comfortable with that. Anyway, DP has been on the computer since he got up... grrrr as usual.
When he got up I said there was something to pick up at the post office in his name. It would be something I ordered on Ebay but I use his account. He said he would stay home with the girls so I could go and pick it up, and I said I wasn't sure I could because it was in his name. I think I've done it before to be honest, but I wanted him to get out of the house. Instead he rang the post office and said "I believe there's a parcel I need to pick up"... anyway, once it was found he asked if he could have someone else pick it up - bastard. That's all I could think as I walked there, not because I had to but I thought it would be nice to go with the girls. When I got home he was thinking about lunch, it was only 11am. DD 4 had been asking if it was lunch time since 9.30am though, I'd given them bananas and water. DD 4 only drinks water at pre-school apparently, so I'd even made cordial before DP got up - water, sugar, citric acid and strawberry essence. Apparently it tastes like "Scooby Doo drinks" that we buy.
DP made lunch for himself and the girls at 11.40am, I ate at 12pm because I had to defrost spring rolls - they had cheese on toast. I cuddled DD 1 until she fell asleep at 1.15pm then I've been cooking cupcakes again. The others didn't last long - never do in this house LOL Soon I'll go and pick up DS 13, though I hope DD 16 gets home before I go because DD 1 is sound asleep still and with DP in the bathroom I don't want her to wake up and think she's alone. I can't leave DD 4 watching TV either, I'm not comfortable with that. Anyway, DP has been on the computer since he got up... grrrr as usual.
So Tired
It's 6.50am. DD 4 got up because DP wasn't in bed, he came out of the bathroom as she went past so he came out and put the kettle on. Then he came in and sat on the bed. I was barely awake, I heard DD 4 get up but still had my eyes shut. Anyway he just sat there... so I said good morning and asked if he was going back to bed. He said "damn it, I should've sprayed", because DD 16 just went in to the bathroom. I said he should've learned to do that by now. That will be his way of letting me know he's spent a horrible morning in the bathroom and still has whatever it was he had yesterday. I lay there half asleep still and he commented on our neighbour, wondering how he's going. I didn't respond to that, but asked again if he was planning on going back to bed. He said yes, so I got up. We don't leave the little ones up on their own and he'd put the kettle on. Damn him, I'm still half asleep, I hit my shoulder on the door as I walked out. I got DD 4 her milo, might go and run water on my face until DD 16 gets up and I can have a shower.
Yesterday DP spent the time I was home online, part of it he was looking at the news because he kept telling me about it while I was trying to cook tea. "Come and look at this". "In a minute, I'm busy". Then he got DD 16 to set up her laptop, she takes it to school. I use her computer so I don't get online during the day except in the school holidays or when DP goes to the bathroom and I use his. Last term he set up the older laptop, I think he started feeling "guilty" about me running around. I'm sure he feels better when I'm sitting doing nothing. He used to continually offer me food because that was the only time I'd be online. I had to tell him I didn't want so many milos during the day, I put on weight. I'm still not happy with my weight, and I probably still spend too much time on the computer. It's so hard when I'm living with someone who spends 12-16 hours, sometimes more, on the computer. He's home all the time, usually he only gets out if I take him. He's caught a bus a couple of times, but it's a far cry from the twice a week he'd promised at couple's counselling. I get annoyed because I think if he's home he should be able to at least keep the kitchen under control, but as I've said, his idea of "tidy" and mine are very different.
There's DD 1 waking up, it's 7.10am. I have today at home, if DP sleeps in again I won't get in to my room and it's a mess. There are 2 baskets of clean clothes to put away but I can't get in there to sort them out properly. I will probably end up doing the kitchen until he wakes up. God knows how long he stayed up for last night, or when DD 4 jumped in to our bed... he asked that this morning too. He slept most of yesterday so it could have been early this morning. I went to bed at 11pm after having another laugh at DP's shoes. He wasn't happy I'd said it in front of the kids - especially DD 16 who said she couldn't wait to tell her friends at school, then she said she'd put it on FaceBook LOL She didn't as far as I know. She's been up looking for clothes, so hopefully I won't have long to wait for a shower.
Yesterday DP spent the time I was home online, part of it he was looking at the news because he kept telling me about it while I was trying to cook tea. "Come and look at this". "In a minute, I'm busy". Then he got DD 16 to set up her laptop, she takes it to school. I use her computer so I don't get online during the day except in the school holidays or when DP goes to the bathroom and I use his. Last term he set up the older laptop, I think he started feeling "guilty" about me running around. I'm sure he feels better when I'm sitting doing nothing. He used to continually offer me food because that was the only time I'd be online. I had to tell him I didn't want so many milos during the day, I put on weight. I'm still not happy with my weight, and I probably still spend too much time on the computer. It's so hard when I'm living with someone who spends 12-16 hours, sometimes more, on the computer. He's home all the time, usually he only gets out if I take him. He's caught a bus a couple of times, but it's a far cry from the twice a week he'd promised at couple's counselling. I get annoyed because I think if he's home he should be able to at least keep the kitchen under control, but as I've said, his idea of "tidy" and mine are very different.
There's DD 1 waking up, it's 7.10am. I have today at home, if DP sleeps in again I won't get in to my room and it's a mess. There are 2 baskets of clean clothes to put away but I can't get in there to sort them out properly. I will probably end up doing the kitchen until he wakes up. God knows how long he stayed up for last night, or when DD 4 jumped in to our bed... he asked that this morning too. He slept most of yesterday so it could have been early this morning. I went to bed at 11pm after having another laugh at DP's shoes. He wasn't happy I'd said it in front of the kids - especially DD 16 who said she couldn't wait to tell her friends at school, then she said she'd put it on FaceBook LOL She didn't as far as I know. She's been up looking for clothes, so hopefully I won't have long to wait for a shower.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Kids back at school
I honestly can't remember Sunday night... pretty sure I went to bed fairly early after having 2 pieces of toast with vegemite. I drank water all day, and the toast was all I had to eat. DP got up Monday morning with DD 4. I got up to find him sitting in his chair in the living room - he often sits there because he falls asleep. He hadn't got breakfast for DD 4, just gave her a milo as he usually does. DD 1 slept in as well, it was after my shower when I noticed she was awake - about 8am. I took DS 13 to school at 8.20am leaving the little ones with DP. DD 16 catches a bus. I got home and DP asked what the plans for the day were. I said I thought we'd go shopping as we needed to the day before but I was too ill. DP headed to the bathroom at about 9am and was out around 10am. He didn't shower... I mention that because his last shower was Saturday before we went out. He should really shower daily. Anyway, we went out and about an hour in I started feeling really sick. After 2 hours all I wanted to do was go home and rest. We were home by 12.30pm and I went to bed. DP bought DD 1 in asleep at about 1.30pm. I got up at 2.30pm more because I knew I had to get DS 13 at 3pm. I mentioned to DP that he wasn't looking well and he tried to insist he was fine while at the same time putting on his droopy shoulders. Yes, I say this like it's an act, and I think it is... I think it's his way of saying "It's my turn to be unwell, don't expect too much from me from this point on".
Monday's of school term are busy for me, I pick up DS 13 at 3pm, go home, get DD 4 ready for her sport, take her to pick up DD 16 at 3.40ish, head to sport, at 5.30pm I take DD 4 home and leave DD 16 for her training, then I have to pick her up at 7.30pm. In between we have tea, which was supposed to be a roast, but ended up being spaghetti on toast. We had nothing for the kids to have for recess so I wanted to cook. I didn't get a chance - after coming home at close to 8pm I cuddled DD 1, DD 4 and DS 13 went to bed, DD 16 had to have tea then she went to bed. DD 1 fought sleep for me until 10pm when I handed her to DP and she went to sleep almost straight away. That's when I started to cook, I made cupcakes. DP spent his time on the computer again. Ok, heating up spaghetti and making some toast doesn't take much effort, but he was off the computer for that time. He did some dishes too, but this morning I realised they were just the ones I'd left to soak after I did some after tea.
Tuesday - again, I was up at 6.45 with DD 4. DD 1 got up at 7am. I was doing some dishes (I had to put away the ones DP did last night, as well as the ones DP had stuffed in a box beside the drying rack instead of putting away properly, grrr) I got them both breakfast and went for my shower. DP headed back to bed, I did more dishes before getting myself some breakfast - my first day of "normal eating" LOL I made DD 4 lunch and got her snacks (cupcakes) and drink packed in to her bag. We left at 8.40am, dropped DS 13 at school then took DD 4 to pre-school. I headed to mum's until 10am, then went to my social group. Back to mum's for lunch, DD 1 slept. I stayed until I had to get DD 4 at 2.30pm. Headed to pick DS 13 up from school and went to visit Nanna where we met DD 16. DP rang while I was there to ask for his bank card number so he could order tea - I refused to give it to him. We headed home at 5pm and I cooked tea. DP had apparently slept until 2pm. I'm going to assume much of the time after that was spent in the toilet. He'd said on the phone that he had what DD 1 has, only I suspect she has a temporary lactose intolerance from the gastro so I've bought soy milk for her for the next couple of days - it's ok, she likes it LOL Anyway, the bathroom has been bleached and DP asked how to best clean sneakers, so I asked if he pooped in his shoe ROFL I asked in front of the kids, they thought it was hilarious :P Anyway... it's 7.40pm and DD 4 is insisting it's time to brush her teeth so she can go to bed... better go.
Monday's of school term are busy for me, I pick up DS 13 at 3pm, go home, get DD 4 ready for her sport, take her to pick up DD 16 at 3.40ish, head to sport, at 5.30pm I take DD 4 home and leave DD 16 for her training, then I have to pick her up at 7.30pm. In between we have tea, which was supposed to be a roast, but ended up being spaghetti on toast. We had nothing for the kids to have for recess so I wanted to cook. I didn't get a chance - after coming home at close to 8pm I cuddled DD 1, DD 4 and DS 13 went to bed, DD 16 had to have tea then she went to bed. DD 1 fought sleep for me until 10pm when I handed her to DP and she went to sleep almost straight away. That's when I started to cook, I made cupcakes. DP spent his time on the computer again. Ok, heating up spaghetti and making some toast doesn't take much effort, but he was off the computer for that time. He did some dishes too, but this morning I realised they were just the ones I'd left to soak after I did some after tea.
Tuesday - again, I was up at 6.45 with DD 4. DD 1 got up at 7am. I was doing some dishes (I had to put away the ones DP did last night, as well as the ones DP had stuffed in a box beside the drying rack instead of putting away properly, grrr) I got them both breakfast and went for my shower. DP headed back to bed, I did more dishes before getting myself some breakfast - my first day of "normal eating" LOL I made DD 4 lunch and got her snacks (cupcakes) and drink packed in to her bag. We left at 8.40am, dropped DS 13 at school then took DD 4 to pre-school. I headed to mum's until 10am, then went to my social group. Back to mum's for lunch, DD 1 slept. I stayed until I had to get DD 4 at 2.30pm. Headed to pick DS 13 up from school and went to visit Nanna where we met DD 16. DP rang while I was there to ask for his bank card number so he could order tea - I refused to give it to him. We headed home at 5pm and I cooked tea. DP had apparently slept until 2pm. I'm going to assume much of the time after that was spent in the toilet. He'd said on the phone that he had what DD 1 has, only I suspect she has a temporary lactose intolerance from the gastro so I've bought soy milk for her for the next couple of days - it's ok, she likes it LOL Anyway, the bathroom has been bleached and DP asked how to best clean sneakers, so I asked if he pooped in his shoe ROFL I asked in front of the kids, they thought it was hilarious :P Anyway... it's 7.40pm and DD 4 is insisting it's time to brush her teeth so she can go to bed... better go.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Sick Day
Yes I was sick today :( Threw up last night a couple of times. But let's start with yesterday.
I was up at 7am with the 2 little girls. DP got up about 9am, sat on the computer for an hour, then went for his 'bathroom routine'. He knew I wanted to go to mum's at about 1pm, he said we'd go out "first thing" then get home by midday. Instead he got out of the bathroom at 11am. We ended up going to a little shopping centre and I dropped him off home at 1pm on the way to mum's. We were going to have a roast for tea, but he sent a message saying "change of plan, we're having hamburgers". Not sure why, I just asked him and the roast is in the fridge. Oh well.
So today DP got up with the DD 4 when she woke up. He had to come and get DD 1 when she woke up. I slept most of the day. At about 11am DP checked in because DD 1 was constantly looking for me - I heard her calling out "mummy, mummy" a few times. The older 2 had made their own way to church. DP said he needed to go to the toilet if I would watch the little ones "for a few minutes". He was in there for just under an hour. I went back to bed at midday feeling like I was going to throw up again. I slept, and when I woke up I felt much better. At some point DP bought a sleeping DD 1 in and put her next to me. She slept about half an hour after I got up at 3pm. I found the original Clash of the Titans was on so watched that until 4pm, then have been on the computer for much of the afternoon. DP has played WoW since I got up. DD 16 cooked tea for everyone, I had toast. DP had told me when he bought DD 1 in that the kitchen was "mostly done" and they were working on the living room. He said it like he was helping, but from past experience it was the kids. They got home shortly after I'd gone back to bed apparently. 12.30ish. The kitchen doesn't look "mostly done", though when I bought that up after tea DP told me all the dishes were from this afternoon - yeah, the 5 of them used 8 mugs I'm sure. There are no small plates, we have about a dozen, and no bowls, we have 7, not including the plastic ones for the little girls. None of those are in the cupboards. So DP gets angry at me and says he did nothing today... more likely he did about 10mins of dishes and played WoW the rest of the day - like he does most days.
I hate being sick... I feel like DP sits on the computer all day while I sleep or sit because I physically can't do anything. When DP is sick he sleeps and sits on the computer all day while I run around trying to do the housework... see a pattern? When I am well I run around doing housework and DP sits on the computer. Man it shits me!
I was up at 7am with the 2 little girls. DP got up about 9am, sat on the computer for an hour, then went for his 'bathroom routine'. He knew I wanted to go to mum's at about 1pm, he said we'd go out "first thing" then get home by midday. Instead he got out of the bathroom at 11am. We ended up going to a little shopping centre and I dropped him off home at 1pm on the way to mum's. We were going to have a roast for tea, but he sent a message saying "change of plan, we're having hamburgers". Not sure why, I just asked him and the roast is in the fridge. Oh well.
So today DP got up with the DD 4 when she woke up. He had to come and get DD 1 when she woke up. I slept most of the day. At about 11am DP checked in because DD 1 was constantly looking for me - I heard her calling out "mummy, mummy" a few times. The older 2 had made their own way to church. DP said he needed to go to the toilet if I would watch the little ones "for a few minutes". He was in there for just under an hour. I went back to bed at midday feeling like I was going to throw up again. I slept, and when I woke up I felt much better. At some point DP bought a sleeping DD 1 in and put her next to me. She slept about half an hour after I got up at 3pm. I found the original Clash of the Titans was on so watched that until 4pm, then have been on the computer for much of the afternoon. DP has played WoW since I got up. DD 16 cooked tea for everyone, I had toast. DP had told me when he bought DD 1 in that the kitchen was "mostly done" and they were working on the living room. He said it like he was helping, but from past experience it was the kids. They got home shortly after I'd gone back to bed apparently. 12.30ish. The kitchen doesn't look "mostly done", though when I bought that up after tea DP told me all the dishes were from this afternoon - yeah, the 5 of them used 8 mugs I'm sure. There are no small plates, we have about a dozen, and no bowls, we have 7, not including the plastic ones for the little girls. None of those are in the cupboards. So DP gets angry at me and says he did nothing today... more likely he did about 10mins of dishes and played WoW the rest of the day - like he does most days.
I hate being sick... I feel like DP sits on the computer all day while I sleep or sit because I physically can't do anything. When DP is sick he sleeps and sits on the computer all day while I run around trying to do the housework... see a pattern? When I am well I run around doing housework and DP sits on the computer. Man it shits me!
Friday, April 9, 2010
Another Lazy Day
You can tell it's school holidays LOL Last night I decided to stay up until midnight to harvest a crop on FarmVille (Facebook app) because it was for a co-op. I won't be doing that again! DD 1 was awake at 6am and wanting me. DP took her out of the bedroom, not sure why, when he bought her back in she cuddled next to me and went back to sleep! By then DD 4 woke up so DP went out to the living room with her. I dropped back off to sleep and got up at 9.15am with DD 1 to find the other children up and about and DP snoring on his chair. When he made a move I told him if he wanted to go back to bed now was the time... so he did. It's 11.45am and he's still asleep with the door closed.
DD 1 spent much of the morning cuddling me and lifting her top. I think she had a belly ache, and she was making noises like she was going to throw up. I sat with a towel ready LOL The landlord rang to say he had the replacement parts to fix our leaky taps, so I ok'd him coming over. He's not long left. DD 1 got out of my arms at about 11am and seems fine now, though I did give her some Panadol about half an hour before that. DD 16 caught a bus to visit her boyfriend for lunch. DS is now playing the PS2, the 2 little girls are just playing in the living room. I've put on some washing but really want to have a shower, I usually have one first thing in the morning. Oh well, it's a different day, hard when the kids aren't well. I wonder how long DP will sleep for, he usually has about 4-6 hours when he 'naps'. I did some dishes earlier, might get off the computer and do some more before I get the kids lunch. DD 4 just said she is hungry.
Her face is looking a little better, still got the eczema but it should clear up if we avoid 'bad' food.
DD 1 spent much of the morning cuddling me and lifting her top. I think she had a belly ache, and she was making noises like she was going to throw up. I sat with a towel ready LOL The landlord rang to say he had the replacement parts to fix our leaky taps, so I ok'd him coming over. He's not long left. DD 1 got out of my arms at about 11am and seems fine now, though I did give her some Panadol about half an hour before that. DD 16 caught a bus to visit her boyfriend for lunch. DS is now playing the PS2, the 2 little girls are just playing in the living room. I've put on some washing but really want to have a shower, I usually have one first thing in the morning. Oh well, it's a different day, hard when the kids aren't well. I wonder how long DP will sleep for, he usually has about 4-6 hours when he 'naps'. I did some dishes earlier, might get off the computer and do some more before I get the kids lunch. DD 4 just said she is hungry.
Her face is looking a little better, still got the eczema but it should clear up if we avoid 'bad' food.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
A Lazy Day
So to continue on our day of illness... DP got up at 4pm and filled the sink. He did about 10 mins worth of dishes, asked DD 16 to dry, and sat back on WoW. He's still there and it's 6.30pm. I went out about 45 mins ago to take the 2 older kids in to town and picked up Macca's for tea while I was there. Those family meal deals are fantastic :) Don't quite feed all of us, but a Happy Meal and an extra burger and we're right.
I've just noticed that DD 4's face is starting to break out - she gets eczema but we're not entirely sure what sets it off. Could be the chips we had for lunch combined with chips from Macca's. She had 1 or 2 lamington fingers. Hmm... don't think she's had much juice or cordial. Probably no good food today either, toast... that would be all. And we had lasagne for tea, so no vegies lately. No fresh fruit left, shopping on the weekend. And she hasn't had milk yet because I don't like to give it when they've been sick. She will have a milo after tea and before bed.
I've just noticed that DD 4's face is starting to break out - she gets eczema but we're not entirely sure what sets it off. Could be the chips we had for lunch combined with chips from Macca's. She had 1 or 2 lamington fingers. Hmm... don't think she's had much juice or cordial. Probably no good food today either, toast... that would be all. And we had lasagne for tea, so no vegies lately. No fresh fruit left, shopping on the weekend. And she hasn't had milk yet because I don't like to give it when they've been sick. She will have a milo after tea and before bed.
Another Day of Illness
DP got up this morning when DD 4 woke up. DD 1 threw up all over me last night and then again in bed. When I got up at 7.30am with DD 1 DP was snoring his head off sitting in his chair, and DD 4 was asleep on a pile of washing on the couch. Apparently DD 4 had thrown up again... *sigh* DP eventually got up himself around 9-9.30am saying he would go back to bed after I had my shower. Instead he's been playing WoW all day. It's now 2pm and he was about to go to bed until I pointed out the time and said he would likely sleep until tea or after tea. He's sitting back at the computer now after cracking them with me. I've put on about 3 or 4 loads of washing, and my eldest (DD 16) just put on another of mostly her own clothes. I was hanging it out as it finished but the one before DD 16's isn't out yet. The most DP has managed is to fill the sink with water - no dishes done. He wonders why I get angry. Even DS (who is 13) has helped tidy the living room and vaccuumed for us. DD 16 folded the washing that was on the couch.
I understand that DP feels tired, but he needs to help around here. Playing WoW for about 4 hours and wanting to go to bed just isn't acceptable - is it?
I understand that DP feels tired, but he needs to help around here. Playing WoW for about 4 hours and wanting to go to bed just isn't acceptable - is it?
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Some background
Ok, so I have 4 kids and a partner with anxiety disorder. My days are chaotic and I suffer from a bad case of Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome - CHAOS.
My partner (DP) has anxiety disorder and social phobia. He was diagnosed after 2 years of me telling him to see his GP because the way he lived (and still lives) is not "normal". It's caused a lot of stress in our relationship. We had some couples counselling after he wasn't taking his own state of mind seriously enough to see a counsellor and get help. Actually the problem is him admitting he needs help and following through. We finally had to stop the couples counselling because it became apparent that a big part of the problem is DP's computer addiction. I'm finding it really hard to deal with, so this is going to be a sort of diary for me to keep track of "progress", or maybe so I can prove that it really is a problem and he's not making enough of an effort. We often argue whether or not he is trying his hardest to make this relationship work.
Take today. Last night my 4 year old was throwing up (DD 4). This morning the 1 year old followed suit (DD 1). I'm not feeling so good myself to be honest. DP got up with the little ones and I slept in until about 8.15am. DD 1 wanted cuddles so I sat on the computer for a while. DP was playing WoW (that's World of Warcraft for those that read this and don't know) I finally went for my shower at about 10am after chatting to my SIL on Facebook. DD 1 was happy to watch some TV. I got out and DP was still on WoW. At about 11am he headed for the bathroom telling me the landlord would be here soon. He arrived around midday and DP had just gone in to the shower... we have one bathroom and it's the only way in to the toilet. DP locks the bathroom door when he goes to the toilet and/or the shower. Anyway, we had to sign a new rent agreement and I wanted the LL to look at some leaky taps. That involved waiting for the bathroom to be free. So DP gets out and the LL leaves, and DP starts telling the kids (there are 4 in total) that we are going to Centrelink to drop off his form and then to a local shopping centre. By now I'm feeling less than perky and really can't be bothered, plus while the little ones seem ok they have both vomited in the last 12 hours. It's about 1pm. I suggest it's not a good idea to go out with them, DP gets annoyed and says he will catch a bus.
Here I must say that DP doesn't drive. He has his L's but for 12 months hasn't done much about sorting things out to get his licence. He says it's because of his anxiety, driving is more stressful for him than it is for me. But anyway. He is on Zoloft for his anxiety, so he takes a pill and plays WoW. When I ask he says he needs an hour for the medication to kick in. Great, but at least I don't have to drive him and 4 kids around today. DD 1 falls asleep, it's 3.30pm and she is still asleep, so a pretty good sign she's unwell. DP finally headed to the bus at about 3pm. About 20 mins ago he called to ask what time Centrelink closes - it used to be 3pm. Does anyone else remember those days? I looked online, it's 5pm now. So I guess he'll go in to town and make his way home, then he'll sit on WoW for the rest of the night and be annoyed that I "made" him catch a bus and get himself around. Oh well... we shall see.
My partner (DP) has anxiety disorder and social phobia. He was diagnosed after 2 years of me telling him to see his GP because the way he lived (and still lives) is not "normal". It's caused a lot of stress in our relationship. We had some couples counselling after he wasn't taking his own state of mind seriously enough to see a counsellor and get help. Actually the problem is him admitting he needs help and following through. We finally had to stop the couples counselling because it became apparent that a big part of the problem is DP's computer addiction. I'm finding it really hard to deal with, so this is going to be a sort of diary for me to keep track of "progress", or maybe so I can prove that it really is a problem and he's not making enough of an effort. We often argue whether or not he is trying his hardest to make this relationship work.
Take today. Last night my 4 year old was throwing up (DD 4). This morning the 1 year old followed suit (DD 1). I'm not feeling so good myself to be honest. DP got up with the little ones and I slept in until about 8.15am. DD 1 wanted cuddles so I sat on the computer for a while. DP was playing WoW (that's World of Warcraft for those that read this and don't know) I finally went for my shower at about 10am after chatting to my SIL on Facebook. DD 1 was happy to watch some TV. I got out and DP was still on WoW. At about 11am he headed for the bathroom telling me the landlord would be here soon. He arrived around midday and DP had just gone in to the shower... we have one bathroom and it's the only way in to the toilet. DP locks the bathroom door when he goes to the toilet and/or the shower. Anyway, we had to sign a new rent agreement and I wanted the LL to look at some leaky taps. That involved waiting for the bathroom to be free. So DP gets out and the LL leaves, and DP starts telling the kids (there are 4 in total) that we are going to Centrelink to drop off his form and then to a local shopping centre. By now I'm feeling less than perky and really can't be bothered, plus while the little ones seem ok they have both vomited in the last 12 hours. It's about 1pm. I suggest it's not a good idea to go out with them, DP gets annoyed and says he will catch a bus.
Here I must say that DP doesn't drive. He has his L's but for 12 months hasn't done much about sorting things out to get his licence. He says it's because of his anxiety, driving is more stressful for him than it is for me. But anyway. He is on Zoloft for his anxiety, so he takes a pill and plays WoW. When I ask he says he needs an hour for the medication to kick in. Great, but at least I don't have to drive him and 4 kids around today. DD 1 falls asleep, it's 3.30pm and she is still asleep, so a pretty good sign she's unwell. DP finally headed to the bus at about 3pm. About 20 mins ago he called to ask what time Centrelink closes - it used to be 3pm. Does anyone else remember those days? I looked online, it's 5pm now. So I guess he'll go in to town and make his way home, then he'll sit on WoW for the rest of the night and be annoyed that I "made" him catch a bus and get himself around. Oh well... we shall see.
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